OT: My Christmas dilemma solved with an "I told you so!"
I posted about my (kinda) ex wanting me to go to MY old house with his bimbo girlfriend as the hostess on Christmas and my frustration about the situation. Many of you were amazingly supportive so I wanted to update you on the resolution.
I told him that I was not going to discuss it any more until he told his 89 year old mother that he had invited me, all of our 5 children, their spouses and children to the event. I know that she wouldn't go if she knew that information because it is too much chaos for her being mostly deaf. She hadn't come to "our" house on Christmas day since 1996 for just that reason (and I respect that) but we would see her in smaller groups. Then she would have a quite Christmas dinner with my brother in law and his wife and hubby might have gone to see them all later while I did all the clean-up at home. (Yeah, he's an insensitive clod)
Well. low and behold, he went to run this by his mother yesterday and called me afterward to tell me that no, she wouldn't do that. (I TOLD YOU SO!!!!!) So, the Christmas day shakedown is that we (including him) are going to meet at my son's house for our celebration. He will leave at some point to attend the small, quite adult dinner with his brother, his sister-in-law and the bimbo gf. The bimbo is going to cook for all of them at his mothers house and therefore won't be able to join us.....so sad, NOT!!!!
PS......he agreed that asking me to go to my house with his gf as the hostess was asking too much of me, LOL....DUH!! He must have told her that he did that too! How in the world did I manage to stay with him for over 30 years??
edited for her instead of he
High 250/Consult Weight 245/Surgery 205/Now 109
Height 5'4.5" BMI 18.4
In maintenance since June 2009 
Yes, very merry! We do get along very well for the most part. I am very happy that it worked out the way that it has so the all involved have the kind of celebration that want. My ex mother-in-law only lives 4 miles from my son, so he can do both!
High 250/Consult Weight 245/Surgery 205/Now 109
Height 5'4.5" BMI 18.4
In maintenance since June 2009
That is great news!!! I'm sorry he's an insensitive Pile of human waste!! The Bimbo should have realized what an awkward position they were putting you into. It amazes me how thoughtless many people can be. I'm glad it's all working out and that you can have your day with the kids and be able to relax and enjoy it!!!!
Lori 
LOL!! Maybe he didn't tell the bimbo that he had invited me and another dozen people!! This Sunday he, the bimbo and I will be at a different holiday get together. I might have to stand next to her a lot.....she will even more chubby than she normally does 
. You can bet your bottom dollar that I will be lookin HOT!!
High 250/Consult Weight 245/Surgery 205/Now 109
Height 5'4.5" BMI 18.4
In maintenance since June 2009
This falls into the same 'dysfunctional family requests' that a situation I have been dealing with falls into. My husbands ex-wife asked me if I would take her wedding pictures for her...lol. My husband and I got together (as did her and her fiance) a few months before their divorce. It's been a very odd, but strangely acceptable relationship between me and the ex. But the wedding pics for her? Not too sure about that.
You will make the decision that is best for you.
