People say the craziest things sometimes.

So I am getting things prepped at work for my surgery - everyone knows I am having it done. I work in a doctor's office with 28 others. 27 women.  I have had 3 of them basically say the same thing: "good luck! I wish I could have surgery to lose some weight."  Well, these women are all maybe 10-30 pounds over weight.  Seriously? What I wanted to do was ***** slap them.  No, no you don't want to have surgery!!  I will trade my 22 for your 12 any day of the week.

I decided they were well-intentioned.  Not fat people - so they just don't understand what it means to be obese.

I have only told one of my patients that I was having it done, because she asked me directly why I was going to be out of the office.  She gave me a high five.  That made me feel really good!!

 

People are nuts. My stepdad randomly blurts stupid stuff.

I ran into him at the grocery store and he said " Do you eat?!" I just laughed ( no, I come to grocery stores to visit food but I do not buy any). My husband laughed too and said "She eats all the time."

Write those 10-30 pounders off as clueless and laugh yourself all the way to goal.

Rofl!!! That's hilarious! I'm totally saying that next time..."No, I just visit food..."

Hilarious!

The just visiting food comment is priceless lol.

I could so write a book on the stupid things people have said to me since surgery. Most recently someone told me I am looking, "gaunt" - the definition for some who may not know is, Emaciated and haggard; drawn. Seriously??? I am 150 pounds!!! I am 5' 4" and 150 pounds!! According to most BMI scales I am still overweight!
I really have to laugh because my skin has never been better, I wear makeup now and generally I look great! Now that taken into consideration, the person saying this could stand to lose about 40 pounds. Oh the haters are there in full force!!

Yeah I was messaging with someone I haven't seen in a few years online the other day - last time we saw each other I was probably 100 lbs lighter, so they don't know the full extent of my status of "maximum capacity" (as I like to say)...anyway, I had posted a couple pics of me being silly in the hospital with the glamorous surgery wardrobe, and a couple others about being excited about my success so far. When I answered her questions about what was going on, I got a "well, good luck getting skinny by force".

 

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what? I weighed both sides of how it could be taken, including the fact that e-messages leave lots to be desired such as body language/intonation/etc. Eventual conclusion was that I don't really care what she meant! I just replied that I'm aiming for healthy, not skinny, but I'll take what I can get...I think the big lesson for me was that it's ok to not care what someone thinks, especially if it's the first contact in a long time!

Ummm just wait until you are trying to lose that last ten pounds then you can go apologize to our co- workers as it will be harder then the first hundred.  And it gets better, if you regain that ten have fun trying to lose it again.  Don't be what you hate, insensative people come in all shapes and sizes, and right now its you.  They are trying to be supportive and real.

Uhm, I knew it wasn't a hater comment - and I'm not a hater. I'm also not insensitive which is why I did not argue with any of them. The point was it was a crazy thing to say - to ME. My best friend needs to lose 15 pounds and to hear her talk you would think she was a cow. I know that weight struggles don't have to be gigantic numbers. It was the "wish I could have surgery" that got me. Maybe they do and just don't realize what it means. Maybe they think its the easy way out.

There should be a thread called 'The stupid things people say' especially when it concerns weight loss surgery.  My best remark to someone who said the 'ol 'easy way out' crap comment about me getting weight loss surgery was this:

"I can lose weight with the help of my tool, but you can't fix stupid"

Say that in a very calm and direct manner, looking them right in the eye and simply walk away while their mouth is still open. 

Priceless!

On a serious note, ignorance is everywhere (and everything) and everyone has a friend/neighbor/relative that had surgery either had a complication or re-gained all the weight back.  No one every talks about the positive things with weight loss surgery, only the negatives.  Unfortunately, its like that with everything because tragedy sells (look at the news every day).  I did a positive story concerning my first fertility treatment as it was brand new at the time and just finished with its FDA trials.  I was on two local news stories, several physicians references, and the local newspaper.  The only people who knew about it were the ones my mom called to tell I was going to be on T.V.  I wish there were more positive stories out there, but no one really cares to hear them, unfortunately. 

If you don't want to offend (like people you work with) simply just walk away and let it slide right off your back. I can't live my life that way anymore and chose to say something back (and I have facts to back it up when I do that) whoever says stupid things to me.  Not everyone does that though, and I can see when it would be less than tactful to do so.  I simply have no place in my life anymore for anyone's bull**** no matter who they are. 

Weight loss surgery and the amazing journey we go through as we lose weight is so amazing.  Challenging-yes, but do-able if you learn healthy coping skills.

M'Lane

I may be way off base, but I interpret that as them saying that you are "taking the easy way out". I hope that I'm wrong though.

Martha