People say the craziest things sometimes.

I went back and thought seriously about the thee ladies and our relationships.
1 was trying to be supportive. 1 was probably being a bit backhanded - she doesn't know me very well and probably has the least to lose. The other, well she never monitors what comes out of her mouth- so who knows.
Overall I have gotten extreme support from work. Most people tell me not to end up like so-and-so *****gained...or to talk to so-and-so who did really well.

I so understand. I was talking with my SIL about the care of my elderly Mother the other day when the subject of my prep for WLS came up and she asked how I was doing. I told her I had lost ~27 lbs on the diet trial, signed the consent forms for surgery the day before and the office was opening the approval process that day. Her response was, "If you can lose that much weight on your own why do you need the surgery?" Seriously!?! If I could keep the weight off that I lose I would be approximately 1000 lbs lighter. She should understand this by now. I've explained extensively to her and my brother about the surgery and why I need it as a tool to aid me in keeping the weight off once I have lost it. I suppose we just have to keep educating those around us.

Randy
 

Thread hijack. Is that your pug in your avatar? Cute! I have a pug, and I always like to say hi to other pug people.

I think we all will hear stupid remarks and will just have to blow them off.

However, we do need some sort of support system and this is mine.  My husband and daughter are not in favor if me having this done even though they know they have to go in a remove the slipped band.  I know it is because they are worried, but I will more or less go about my business after I have it done without talking to them about it.  I am hoping (as are we all) for no serious complications, as I will never hear the end of
I told you so!".

Another reason I am very happy I was told about this place by my doc's nurse.  The place I am having this done has online forums, but they are really dead and inactive and would not do me a lot of good.  My doc's nurse on the other hand, had the surgery and recently had a panniculectomy and knew where to go for answers!

Yep, he was mine. Passed away just over a year ago. His name was Drew and the best little guy you could ever want. 

Yeah, those are clueless comments. If you want to interpret them generously, they are trying to show solidarity with you. They also struggle with their weight, see, just like you. They are your sisterhood. They think.

It just shows to go ya that we need support groups of people *****ally do understand us because they are us.

(In a similar vein, I feel jealous of people who get WLS at my first goal weight, or present weight. I'm petty like that. I understand them, I'm rooting for them, and I support them all the way, but pretty recently I would have killed to get down to their starting weight.)

I had a relatively new friend freak out when i told her. "What? You don't need that surgery! You're not that big!" She went on & on. At my highest weight I was 281, current weight is 252 (after 4 days of opti). On boxing day my sister, who is an RPN, guessed my weight at "160...ok, 180?". I was 258.5 that morning. I don't look my weight as I carry it proportionately. I had decided I was only telling my co-workers that I was having my gall bladder removed (which I am), then decided I didn't want to keep it from them, as I don't plan on keeping it a secret afterwards. So the first person I told yesterday says to me...

Wait for it...

"You're not big enough to have that surgery."
Sigh. I am just tired of telling people "oh yeah, I really am big enough to have this surgery". I just don't enjoy convincing people that I really am fat. So my response was "thank you." & I just walked away.