What to warn my sweetie about?
1. Immediately post surgery his job is to remind me sip, sip, sip, walk, walk, walk
2. Hormones are gonna go crazy at least for the first couple of months.He's amazing and can make me laugh through my tears so I'm lucky. We went down this hormone route once before so we've got this one.
3. The STALL. It might be week two, might be week three or four but its probably gonna happen more than once during the journey. His job will be to remind me that's low and steady wins the race.
What else is important to remind him, and myself, of?
That this is YOUR journey and not his. He's there to accompany you but is in no way responsible for the choices you make or don't make. He is not the food or exercise police. YOU will take responsiblity for everything you eat and drink and for every movement you make.
Might help take the pressure off him a bit if you become a hormone wreck!!!!
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I don't know if this is important but it would be helpful if he was supportive of you as you go through the process of eating differently. It would be nice if he were sensitive about any grieving you may go through as you change the way you eat. If it bothers you to have things around like treats maybe he would be willing to keep those out of the house and eat them away from you. Even better is if he is willing to make changes to his eating while you are in the adjustment period. Sitting there eating a pizza in front of you doesn't make you feel better and is kind of cruel if he knows it bothers you and yet insists on doing so. Yes, you are the one that signed up for this, not him, but he could still be nice and not make it any more difficult then it may already be.
Hopefully you have talked with him about the changes in the way you are going to eat and he is on board with it and won't insist on having things he wants in the house if it bothers you.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
I'm just 4 weeks out, but I made a discovery. My husband uses food to show me love. Since surgery, he kept asking me what I want for dinner, and making me plates with way too much food on them. I've educated him about what I can and can't eat, but he seems to forget quite often. Tonight, I sat him down and explained my theory, that he has shown me love with food for 35+ years, and he needs to find a different way to do that now. Just like the changes I've had to make in my head, he has some changes to make in his own. Fortunately, he is on board with making healthier choices as a couple and family.
He needs to be aware of your limitations regarding types, consistencies, and amounts of fuel (food) that your body needs through each stage. My analogy, since I don't feel hunger anymore, is "I'm eating to live, not living to eat." He could relate to that!
Keep communicating with him!
Jill
I would just give him a big blanket disclaimer right from the get-go that goes something like this: "I'm sorry I'm so gassy". That will save you from having to say it over and over again on your journey. ;)
Best of luck! Sounds like you've got great support from your husband. I do too and its been such a blessing!
Amy
So, just so you know....not everyone goes through the "emotional" phase early on. I'm a year and 2 months out and I think it's just now hitting me. I was pretty "solid" emotionally early on (at least on the outside, not sure what was happening to me subconsciously though). I even went through a 5 month span of being unemployed with no health insurance, no savings, and no unemployment benefits, and I remained "pretty solid" emotionally.
But you should warn him about is the potential for the most noxious smelling gas that he's ever imagined sleeping under the same covers with. I think I'm learning that the sugar alcohols in the vitamins and the protein shakes that I was consuming was contributing to it. However the gas still rears it's ugly head unexpectedly. And GAS-X does not help. For me, a tablespoon of whole mustard seeds (the kind you buy in an jar at Trader Joes) helps somewhat.