Responses from People...

So, I am sure we have all heard these!  I decided that I was going to tell a few people outside of immediate family about WLS. Here are some of the responses I have received so far, & believe me when I say there are definitely more to come  

"You look fine, you don't need WLS" My Response "I am 120lbs overweight, that doesn't look fine, and if you hit 120lbs over weight, let me know how you feel" Sounds harsh right? That was coming from someone who only weighed 135lbs and was 5'7. 

Another lady told me "You're gonna die from this surgery, it's not safe. Why don't you just lose weight the healthy way, this seems like the easy way to do things, won't you feel better if you do it the easy way? My response was just a smile and a head shake. What I was really thinking was "Really, you're sitting here telling me I am going to die from this and then calling it the easy way out?! If I could lose weight normally, I'd be healthy now" 

I am sure you all have had these comments. Of course there are many more... so many more comments of nonsense, of people not understanding and frankly not wanting to understand. 

I think 95% of these comments are envy, because not all of these people are slimmer, some are quite overweight.. I don't know what they're scared of when I say I am going to get surgery... i am not forcing them to get it. Heck, A lot of these people aren't even people I associate with often and they're acting extremely concerned  Yeah, right! 

My family has been 100% supportive, of course except my dad who has given me a lot of let downs here lately. He's part of the reason I am doing this. he told my mom and I we were both fat and needed to lose weight... ahh karma bit him because he's gained over 50lbs since then. I overheard him telling my mom, "why is she getting this done? she's just going to screw it up and gain all of her weight back in the end"....

Gives me even more reason to prove him and many others wrong. 

I must be either completely oblivious or a real witch because no one has said any of these things to me.

Sorry you have to hear them, but until they walk in your shoes they can go pound sand. I would also remind people that their approval is neither required nor desired. I cannot believe people are telling you, a grown woman, their opinions about how you are managing your health/life.

good luck

I know, it completely left me dumbfounded when they told me that. Thank you though, I am sure I'll need the luck :)

I only ever got those comments from 2 people...one person was an acquaintance and therefore their opinion means zero to me and the other my best friend who I felt deserved my reasoning for it. I had never talked about my weight with her and once she knew all the things I kept to myself about it she has never said a word again. I dont keep my surgery a secret but I dont tell everyone either. My family and close friends know and beyond that I really dont give a flying duck what people think. Im like that in general so maybe thats why my friends and family never went there. Everyone who has this should be doing it for themselves and their health...I have nothing to prove to others and no one to disappoint other than myself.

Good luck!

I don't care what these people say... But the audacity some people have. The only reason I told those two people were because I had posted on my Facebook account that I was headed to the doctor's, the lady who said it'd kill me messaged me and asked what was going on... Thinking she was a close friend of the family I told her my situation and my reasoning. And that was the response I got from her the next time I saw her in person. The other person was my cousin whom I thought at the time cared about me, but recent events have showed differently. I like your way of thinking! ;)

Friends are happy for me.  Family, on the other hand, not so much.  I guess I am lucky that I will even be able to get my husband to drive me to the hospital (a 3-hour-trip, one way).

Yeah, I like her reasoning: It's the easy way, and it could kill you. 

Nobody except my daughter protested my getting surgery. She was afraid of it. The rest of my family evidently were more than ready for me to do something--anything!--to fix my obesity. It reminded me of the year one of them gave me hair dye for Christmas.  (Hey, this isn't a gift...it's an intervention!)

 Omigawd, thank you for the laugh about the hair dye. I needed it.

My grandma is the same way, more so now since she lost her husband of 44 years. I try to reassure her all of the time, but I am sure she won't fully believe me until she sees me alive after surgery :P Your daughter sounds like a peach... Glad she cares so much about you. And I am LOLing about the hair dye. too funny! (;

Some people are rather ignorant when it comes to obesity and weight loss surgery.  Like, duh, none of have ever actually tried to lose weight without having surgery...

I've been pretty lucky.  Most people have been very supportive.

And, I'm sorry, but your dad sounds like a jerk.  I can't wait till he sees the reached- goal you.  But then again, he'd probably have something else to be negative about.