Responses from People...
Ugh my dad is worse than a jerk. My granddad passed away in October and honestly that day he passed away, I felt as if I had lost my dad. He raised me my whole life. My dad is inconsiderate, rude, and sometimes I think he's heartless and he doesn't care of no one but himself. it puts a lot of stress on me. I don't even associate with him any longer. I am glad that you have been supported, and I hope your journey is going great.
The interesting change I've found in this is how people responded when I first had my surgery vs. how they respond now. I got some of those same awful comments (fortunately not from my family), and did my best to turn them into motivation.
Now when I tell people "Oh, I had gastric bypass nine years ago," those same kinds of people give me a look of shock. All of those stupid, preconceived notions are proven wrong all at once. I'm healthy, maintaining an average weight, and eating a normal diet--just a smaller version.
So down the line when you have proven everyone wrong, you'll get to feel that extreme satisfaction. It's worth every ugly comment, I promise.
Long-term post-ops with regain struggles, click here to see some steps for getting back on track (without the 5-day pouch fad or liquid diet): http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/bananafish711/blog/2013/04/05/don-t-panic--believe-and-you-will-succeed-/
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I have a feeling, a big feeling that after surgery when I start losing and reach my goal that everytime someone called me fat, or everytime someone said oh you're so pretty if only you could lose some weight, or every time I was made fun of in general wont matter to me. I remember when I got into middle school, that was when I started gaining from depression one of my close friends said to me, you know what my mom said? I said no, she said "Oh my mom said that you are one of my prettiest friends if only" and I knew what she was going to say... I said "If only what" she said "if only you could lose some weight" it's so sad people are so inconsiderate of your feelings...
Ignore the "haters"....it is unfortunate people speak before they know what they are talking about.
I was very reluctant to tell many people for fear of that very thing...However, I have gotten nothing but positive, supportive comments...EXCEPT...for my mother. She saw me for the first time after surgery last month. I had dropped 167 lbs. by then. Her response..."you are too thin", "you're not going to lose anymore, are you?", "your jeans are too big" and "You must have an awful lot of extra skin...what are you going to do about THAT?" Not one You look great or How do you feel? This from the woman who nagged me about everything I put in my mouth growing up and needed to remind me often that people carrying a lot of belly fat die young. This is not a perfect world and sadly, parental support isn't a given.
My mom was very concerned about me getting RNY (she also tried to talk me out of the band back in 2007), She voiced her concerns several times and still has not come to terms with my decision. I finally had to be firm with her and tell her "I'm getting tired of you questioning me when you won't do the research to even understand the procedure, much less ever understand what it's like to live in my skin! The old "portion control" worked for you because you only ever got 20lbs overweight in your entire life. You're either going to support me or lets just not talk about it any more." She backed off after that, and still changed the subject whenever I say anything about my surgery. It's sad, because we're pretty close, but I'd rather have it that way than constantly argue about something that's already done.
