Relationship relations question

I was not sure about asking this question but here goes anyway. How did losing weight and maybe having all the extra skin affect your relationship(Husband ,wife,girlfriend,boyfriend type relationships)? One thing that I'm afraid of is that my husband won't find me sexually appealing. Even though I know he is not a vain person. I think I will be self conscious to be naked in front of him. I am not afraid now as a bigger person though. What does everyone have to say?

I was worried about the same thing...and to be honest...after losing 95 lbs, it is not so bad for me. I don't worry about it and nor does he. He is thrilled with the smaller waist and more energy! He never comments on my loose skin- and seems to be very happy.

Where is PAUL when we need him?

There was findings from study recently released that concluded that men, when aroused, stop seeing nuances about a woman. So things like flab and extra skin, for a guy who already loves you, probably won't matter much. Biologically, if this study is to be believed, he is programmed not to take much notice. 

Hope that helps. 

my husband is amazing in the fact he always makes sure i don't feel insecure about my self. he complements me daily and reassures how much he loves me.

iv been with him through everything 160 lbs, 310, and now 180's and he has ALWAYS had the same sexual attraction to me

same would go for me, if he had the skin i do or if he gained weight i wouldn't feel any differently about him. though i would want him to be healthy for me and the babies. if that makes any sense.

Most guys usually don't care as long as they can get some!

No truer words than these.

I don't have an answer for you, but I wanted to say I am glad you asked!  I am divorced and recently started dating.  It is a bit scary, and I worry about the same things!  Plus, I am still losing rapidly (only 3 months out), so I worry about meeting someone now that won't be attracted later!  Ugh...dating is stressful. 

Anyway, thanks for asking - I look forward to seeing people's responses!

Christa

I'm 135-140 lbs down, so I have a decent amount of excess skin on my abdomen and thighs. My boyfriend and I began dating when I was about 4 months post-op,  and we were friends pre-op. I was self conscious about it and worried it was gross him out, but he never cared. He always just liked me the way I was, and I guess that's part of the reason I kept him around and married him 8 years later.

I'm worried about this as well.  I have lost about 85 pounds now, and I feel like my boobs are below by my bellybutton.  I have hesitated to date.  I keep saying... I'll lose 10 more pounds... no, 10 more... now I'm thinking more like 65 pounds... then I'll try dating.  I am starting to define my worth by that stupid scale number, which I tried so desperately not to do when I weighed 375 lbs.  Need to snap out of it!  But the sagging skin has made me more self-conscious than I realized.

I was self conscious pre-op about my body, but more so after losing 110lbs believe it or not. Laying down it's not noticeable at all , but when sitting up it is more in my thighs or stomach (not lower stomach). However, my boyfriend never has a problem nor makes me feel insecure about myself in any way. So, if you are with someone who truely loves you - then it should not bother them at all