Several topics...

First, I've had a VERY long week and I'm about as low as I can go...trying to keep putting one foot in front of the other.  My ex of 4 months was found deceased last week and I'm struggling not food wise, that is actually the good part but mentally, I'm struggling with all of the what if's and him being alone but so glad my son wasn't there too....I am just making sure I get what I need nutritionally but it has been hard.  He was an alcoholic and the reason I left with my son (he was his stepdad).....it wasn't because I wanted to leave but it had reached a point where I didn't know what else to do...I knew at one point I was going to have to be strong enough to do it....and the month before my 45th birthday after a nightmare of a trip to the beach on Labor Day, I had reached my point.  I know God's got this and I hope with time I will be okay, and yes I'm going to pursue a therapist...just need to seek that out since I have no insurance.

Second, can someone give me a figurative number on how much I potentially should have lost at my one year anniversary?  I have 142-143 but I want to be sure, I'm close and hope to exceed it, I wanted 150 but I'll be happy with it.  I started at 399 and today actually was 259.6  I would greatly appreciate it....I have so much to catch up...one final, a writing portfolio and back work next week....my sweet sister has reserved a room in PCB for 4 days at the end of the month and I so need it thought it was the last place we went together....but we are thankfully not staying even close to where we were last Labor Day. 

Thank you for reading, needing some support this morning.

Sherry

Everyone is different...I started at 314 at surgery and am at 225 today and I will be 2 years postop on the 9th this month...I have yet to lose 100 lbs postop so Id say youve done fantastic! Good luck with finding a therapist (hugs)

(((HUGS))) You have a lot going on; good job on not stress eating . Take care of yourself and your son.
OH has a weight loss planner but I cannot link it here since I am on my phone. You have done really well. Remember that your loss does not automatically stop at one year. You can still lose so don't get down on yourself.
Take care. I'm pulling for you Sherry.

Thank you :)

First of all, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I hear how very difficult this loss is for you. While my losses have been different from yours, I know that each one is difficult in it's own way. I'm glad to hear that you recognize the need to take care of yourself as you are grieving this loss.

When experiencing my own losses, I had to be more proactive about ensuring that I took care of my nutritional needs. Initially, I didn't do as good a job as I should have, but I tried logging so that I could and would focus on taking care of me. Logging was a good way for me to do this because it allowed me to focus and make sure that I was meeting my needs.

We were also experiencing financial stresses that made obtaining counseling challenging. I found that I was able to get support from the religious community. You don't necessarily have to be affiliated with the denomination to get the support. It also doesn't mean that the counseling is necessarily religiously focused. Often, these services are offered on a sliding scale. You also may be able to get support from a Grief Counseling group in your area. You can contact your local hospice to see if they are aware of a grief counseling group. They often know of resources in your local area for those suffering from grief, even if the deceased didn't employ hospice.

Regarding your weight loss. Especially since your are near your one year anniversary, you should be sure to talk with your surgeon's office to check on your progress. You have done a phenomenal job on  your weight loss. While the golden 'honeymoon' period of weight loss normally occurs during the first year, that doesn't mean that you can't continue to lose weight beyond that point. The part of the malabsorption that pushed your weight loss forward abates, you will always have the restriction in your pouch that you will always be able to leverage. I was a 'light weight' when I had my surgery and I continued to lose weight until I was about 16 months post op. Even though I'm nearly 6 years post op, I'm still able to leverage the power of the restriction my pouch provides to maintain my weight and even take off a few pound if my weight creeps up a bit.

Wishing peace as you move forward.

Sorry you have so much going on. I pray you can get the help you and your son need. I hope your vacation is a relaxing one. I believe you have accomplished a lot. Check with your doctor about goal. I wish you all the luck in the world and keep us posted. God bless!

Sending you a big hug......I am sorry for your loss..Proud of you for staying on track...

I've seen several of your posts on  here before and just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss.  Whew....living with an alcoholic can be like living in a constant tornado, but losing someone you love is excruciating no matter what you've been through with them.  Good, good job on not stress eating!  Thats a huge accomplishment as the majority of us on here have used food for everything including comfort.  I have no idea what the goal is for one year out but you have done an amazing job!