3weeks post op and depressed

I've been struggling with some of the same issues you have, and feel your 'pain'.  Not losing weight fast enough for what I had decided in my head I should be losing....(26 lbs. and I'm 2.5 weeks post-op), but 8 of that was pre-op and 14 the first week. The last week-1/2 I've only lost 4 lbs, so I'm NOT feeling very encouraged. It's good to hear from other people who are struggling with the same things - NOT that you're struggling, but that it's not uncommon to have slower weight loss.

The other issue I share with you is that nothing tastes good! I know that it's probably a blessing right now - keeps me from eating what my EYES tell me to eat (which are the same old "you can eat everything you want" eyes) LOL. So when I try something new, or even something I've been trying, I find that it just tastes weird. Hard to explain. Definitely not something that makes me want to eat more. Like you, I HOPE that the taste buds come back someday, because part of the pleasure of food IS enjoying it, not just keeping my body alive. 

Best of luck to you - hang in there, use the forums to find people who support you, and I hope things look up for you!

Hi there pativs-

I had my surgery June 18, 2013 and have been dealing with feelings of depression also. I generally don't want to eat because I don't like the way it makes me feel but it's getting better. Today I had the membraneless grapefruit. Really a highlight in all that I have tried to eat. 

I don't have a problem with the way food taste right now for the most part, it's all mental for me. "If I eat this, how will I feel?" That is ALWAYS on my mind. As long as it doesn't feel bad I'll try and eat it, because 3 weeks post op is 3 weeks into the rest of our lives. One day you will enjoy food again. Right now you should focus on training your body to eat and and gain nutrition, as this is the only think at this point within our control. I also worry about pain alot. I can't seem to manage it well but I keep trying. 

You are walking for an hour? I'm such a slacker. I do mild moving at this point and my surgeon says that he is happy with my 4 trips two and from the rest room a day. When I get a walk in he is thrilled (I'm sure this had everything to do with my large belly causing stress to my incisions and muscle spasms). I was 395 day of surgery and as of two days ago I was 274 (21 LBS lost). Being from a black family who loves to express ourselves through food, I understand feeling disconnected as a result of your diet, however it doesn't feel good to be disconnected as a result of health issues for unaddressed obesity. 

As for the depression, I FEEL YOUR PAIN. I guess I wasn't ready for the mental and emotional weight of it all. What I've been trying to do is find one thing a day that is better and write it down. In the last 23 days that is 23 things I have to look at which cheers me up. If you like add me as a friend and I'll listen to you anytime. I'm sorry for your sadness but I'm looking forward to it all being behind you. 

Hi Brandies,

I think this forum keeps me going. It is such a blessing to just be able to vent and find a listening ear from someone *****ally does understand, because we are all going through the same thing. I appreciate your kindness and i too feel your Pain. It is so hard to depend on others for so much. Everyday seems to last forever and then we wonder how long before it gets better.

I will have you in my prayers. I am so happy for you to give yourself this gift of better health. It requires much sacrifice, this is why is has to be worth it. I too started to make sure i wrote down the good changes that happen everyday. It has helped. There are blessings all around us daily. Hang in there we are not ever alone. I can imagine how much pain you feel as you a few pounds heavier than I. Just continue to walk as much as you can. Your not a slacker just do your best. Take your meds if the pain is too bad. I started taking Tylenol. The loritab knocks me out. Then Im worried abou****er intake and eating.

I find that the more i push myself and walk the faster i heal too. Today was a good day. Blessings to you!  I am here for you too if you need me:)