Vets vs. Newbies?
First, I loved your post. Wish there was a like button. As somewhat of a newbie here..been a member for a few years but just had my RNY on Dec 10, 2014, I would much rather someone be "firm" and honest with me even if it seems as if they are hurting my feelings. You have all been where I am right now and to me your experience is invaluable.
You spoke for hundreds of us... I know I CHERISHED everything I learned on here from vets and those up-in-coming. I still do. I have had a very good experience; dropping about 110 pounds now, and it was the people before me that paved the road and made MY journey easier. I for one, don't let little girls like the OP bother me. Soldier on VETS!!!!
I also failed miserably with my first WLS so I know a thing or two about doing all the wrong things. New people can learn a lot from vets about how to live successfully after WLS. And they can learn a lot from those of us who didn't listen the first time and learned the hard way.
It is much better to do things right the first time then it is to assume that a revision is the answer to everything. And a lot of people won't be able to get a revision unless they pay for it themselves as many insurance companies won't pay for a second surgery, no matter who paid for your first one.
So I think it's best that we all look at this as our one shot and we do our best to get it right because we may not get a second chance.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
That is why i said "
And yet, I am frustrated with "newbies" that admitted to smoking, and eating high fat and high sugar foods within the first couple of weeks post-op. 
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I am also angry with "newbies" that do stupid ****Like "Eating tacos a week out"
As far as I know, no one is feeling picked on...
I must say again, that no one really read my post...
Or at least no one truly understood it.
LAME.
RNY completed on Aug. 13th, 2013! 
Life is good & getting better!
Newbies vs. Vets???? Are you serious? 
There is no "vs." here. We're here to support each other. Sometimes a response might not be "warm and fuzzy" -- but neither is the WLS journey. There are challenges to be met, and people come here for information and support. We have different attitudes and outlooks - but everyone here has the same goal - to be successful.
HW: 380 SW: 324 GW: 175
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Kelly
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
I have been reading a lot about people complaining, saying that "vets" are rude and "all-knowing" 
, and reading a lot about "vets" feeling aggravated 
, because so many newbies are not following the "rules".
We are all experiencing the same journey...
But our experiences are all unique.
I am frustrated.
So many "vets" have admitted to drinking at least a six pack of soda a day, and some have even admitted to drinking so much beer in a sitting that they told me, "I do not recommend you keeping up with me". 
And yet, I am frustrated with "newbies" that admitted to smoking, and eating high fat and high sugar foods within the first couple of weeks post-op.
And there are those "vets" and "newbies" that are withholding their true behavior. Both pre and post-op. 
I feel that we should all be supportive of each other. 
A verbal slap on the head is fine, as long as it is NOT overly cruel.
Helping a person does not have to equal cruelty.
WTF?! And why? 
Let's support and encourage one another.
No more condescension. No more angry and jealous words. 
Please...
Let's celebrate the beautiful gift that we have all been given.
Some of us will make more mistakes than others,
and that is OK. 
And if a person's chronic mistakes result in them receiving a revision,
then let's not make them hate themselves and feel that they have to hide their true behavior. 
The only way that they will learn from their mistakes is by being honest, and if when they are honest, they get slammed, then they will never learn, because they will NEVER be honest!
It is not just them, or you or me.
We ALL make mistakes on this journey. 
It happens. None of us are perfect! 
Angry and cruel words are not always the way to go for everyone. 
Love you all. 
wish I had a dollar for every forum nanny post like this one. I would be rich.
I don't understand where you get off thinking you can tell anyone how they can post and how they can feel? Who died and put you in charge?
