I am 3 months out. I just came out of a 3 week stall. It is frustrating, but normal. I keep my carbs below 40. Sometimes I only have 10-15 in a day, if it is mostly a meat/protein day. I don't do as well with my carbs that low. I am a low carb dieter from way back, just couldn't stay on it to keep the weight off. Hence, the RNY. In the past, alternating amount of calories and carbs did sometimes jump start me, but the type of carbs matters. For example, I do allow myself a low carb tortilla, or slice of low carb bread on occasion. Those types of added carbs don't do much to break a stall, but if I add in salad and veggies, it sometimes seems to help. Before WLS, 30 carbs a day seemed to be my magic number. I haven't had any candy since WLS, but I suspect that the simple sugars would not do me any favors from a weight loss or blood sugar standpoint.

I lurk on this board, but almost never post. I have read many posts similar to yours. The vets *****sponded with tough criticism do so out of concern for you and your future success. They have been there, done that and have seen many folks here fail. Best of luck to you. I hope you find what works best for you and your body.

What she said. I would have NEVER made it to goal without daily support/wisdom/kicks in the ass, by the vets.  They are the ones that stop your and say "This might not be good idea" before one runs off the cliff.

I also receive a ton of support on the exercise forum.

Mystee. You CAN do this...but you cant go back to your old way of thinking and eating. Listen to the vets, follow your surgeons plan (which probably doesnt have chocolate or candy bars in it),and make wise (i.e. vitamin, minerals and nutrient rich) food choices.

Dont flip out and get all crazy. Listen and objectively consider what is being suggested to you by those that have gone before.

Also..hop over to the revision forum and ask if eating candy bars was a slippery slope that contributed to weight gain over there. The responses might be interesting.

I have accepted the suggestions and support from those that have been kind, but the shame and ridicule is unnecessary, negative, and bullying. Pictures of cake for the fat kid? How does that help? How is that supportive or productive? How is that wisdom or a kick in the ass? That is nothing but shaming. Maybe making other people cry makes one feel superior? I did not flip out and get crazy, but have defended myself. I have made wise food choices for a very long time pre- and post- surgery and to be ridiculed for one bite of something that was wrong instead of offered support for a momentary lapse that actually led to a positive outcome seems just cruel to me. 

Eating a candy bar is not the reason why the scale moved.  Why do you keep insisting that was the reason?  Do you understand the concepts of correlation vs. causation?

Everyone wants you to be successful.  You continue to justify your decision to eat a candy bar when advice from others strongly opposes it.  It doesn't matter if you have made wise food choices for a year.  You're three weeks out of WLS and you're eating a candy bar.  Think again about what you're defending.  

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Apparently all the vets are completely perfect. They seem to now have turned into one of those people that think that criticism and judgement are motivating? Is that what worked for them? I don't see how several pictures of horrible foods is nothing more than bullying and ridicule.

I did it though, I had one bite of chocolate in three months of pre-and post- surgery dieting. Because of that bite of chocolate, I am now doomed to complete failure because of it, according to them. Until that bite, I was stalled, frustrated and had completely followed all the rules and actually seen the scale go up, twice. I had it. I did it, and now have been raked over the coals and condemned to failure for it.

But, the side effect was, it moved the scale. Like I said, I went right back on plan, and nothing again. I tried more carbs, a few, from my protein shakes, and amazingly the scale went down again. When I dieted before, I had to find the sweet spot for calories, for me it was 1350-1500, much higher than the 1200 that most diet plans recommend. I learned that about my body through trial and error, and having more than 1200 calories. Should I have been eating more calories? Probably not, but it worked for my body when 1200 did not. If one type of weight loss program worked for everyone exactly as written, there would only be one, everyone would do it, and we would all be thin and healthy. 

My whole question was about carbs, and what levels work. For some it will be 20, for others it might be 80, but I wanted to know what people were doing, what works for others, so I can work on what works for me. I didn't expect to be back on the playground with bullies telling me how horrible I am and that I will be a pathetic, fat, failure for the rest of my life. 

It seems that 30 carbs is my sweet spot too. Under 20, and nothing. Around 30 and I can lose 1-2 pounds in a day. Like I said, I am more than aware that I need to add appropriate carbs, and when I am cleared to do so, I will do it. 

I was completely honest with what happened. I could have lied, but I didn't. I wholeheartedly appreciate your caring and honest post. I didn't realize that a support forum would cause me to cry in shame from ridicule from those that have been through what I am going through, and still choose to put me down rather than lend a hand to pull me up. 

Thank you for pulling me up.

One person posting pictures is NOT the same as "all the vets."

I apologize, not all the vets. I appreciated your comment and I thank you for being helpful.

Why didn't you report those pictures, I did the second I saw them, that is offensive, bullying and a terrible representation of support, mocking is what hurts people not helps them.  Report all violations of the TOS, that is what member services is for, to keep this forum supportive and get rid of the aggressors.

Pot meet Kettle 

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