What has been going on with Shelia?

Well many of you have inquired and I know that I promised to keep you all updated on how things have been going in my life.  Well, as I know that you all have been praying, things are going to work out.  I did get out of school until after my surgery and I do not know what to do with myself, I have what seems like extra time on my hands, I am working full-time, taking care of my family, preparing for surgery, and working on the Walk From Obesity.  Well, believe it or not, I am still getting up early, I guess my body is use to it so sleeping more is not really happening, even if I go to bed early I get up early and I am constantly feeling like I am not doing something, “Well it is not doing school work”.  Okay, on to Dale, as many of you know we have been having a tremendous problem with bullying at school and it has really harmed his self-esteem, not to mention this past week was a nightmare.  Things during school with the children have been much better, but the group in before school has continued to bully him.  Last Friday, Dale was attacked by a child and he nor the before care, contacted me to let me know.  Dale was going off with Todd on Saturday, so I could work on my finals,and I was placing Dale’s Guinea Pig back into the cage when I saw something on Dale's chest as he took off his shirt to change. I asked to see it, because with him being a boy, I just thought he missed something when he took a shower, you all know how boys are, but I had to argue with him to have him show me and when he did, it was a horrible bruise, it was black, blue and purple, very deep and you can distinctly see a thumb print along with three finger prints.  I asked Dale how he got that and he told me, when I asked why he had not told me and he said he did not want to upset me with my finals, I explained that he is the most important thing in my life and stressed that he is to never hide anything from me, even though I knew he was trying to be a great son to not upset me with my finals due, he was and will always be more important than anything else. Well what happened?  A child attacked Dale when he was walking away from an altercation, because Dale was playing basketball and this kid began intimidating him and after the ball was thrown back and forth at each other, my child decided to take the upper-hand and walk away, well according to witnesses this child attacked Dale from behind.  Now remember, this group of children, led by this kid, ha*****hed Dale, kicked Dale, banged his head on the table, and earlier this year one of the children pushed and in what we thought was and accident, broke Dale’s hand, (now I am not so sure if it was truly and accident) not to mention, all of the verbal encounters that Dale has endured.  I have been to them on numerous occasions and after this last one, I contacted the Nashville area head of the before care program and to amazement, she was not aware of the problems nor had any, not one, been recorded.  To say the least, I was and still furious about that, it is almost as if they want Dale to actually get hurt or killed before they stop it.  Okay, what have I done, before I even knew none of it had been recorded, I contacted Metro Police, since I knew nobody else was going to do this and I am going to stop it, Dale nor any other child deserves this.  I did not have the child arrested on Assault charges, but I did make an official report of assault on this child to be placed on record with the Metro Nashville Police Department, therefore even though Dale has until this Thursday before he is out of school and he will not be around these children, if it continues next year, I will not and repeat will not hesitate to arrest this child.  The child has been suspended for several days and I was ensured that his parents said that this was going to stop, but we will have to wait and see.  Trust me, if I have to file a very large civil action lawsuit against the school system, before care program, and name individuals to get them to pay attention to the seriousness of this situation, I will do it, because it seems like if I hurt them in their pockets, that might be the only thing that makes them take heed of the situation.  Sad world that we live in, that it may take a lawsuit that involves money or someone has to be seriously injured or killed, before someon will pay attention!!  Dale is doing better, he is tough, but this child will begin back on Monday, we will wait and see!! However, one of the things I have always said, was that others will follow the bully to keep them from being bullied, but the funny thing is that the five other boys involved all took Dale’s side and told them that this child attacked Dale from behind when he was walking away from the situation, plus another group of girls, went to them and reported that Dale has been bullied all year by this kid and that he had not done anything wrong, so maybe what they have seen or heard has made a positive impact!!!  I will post more about my personal feeling later in regards to my surgery, fear, anticipation, and excitement, I feel like if you have made it through this post, then you are truly SUPPORT and I love you for it!!!

 Shelia

 

 

 

 

 

Shelia I guess the Lord knew what he was doing when he didn't give me kids.  That burns my hide with what Dale has had to go through this year.  I would have gotten him some boxing lessons and said, "Son go to town on that little sh** a**.!"  Oh that just makes me so mad. I hope he gets a new set of classmates next year and that they are all friends.  Hopefully his summer will be a wonderful one and help him move past this, but unfortunately I'm sure there will be some anxiety as another school year approaches.      Life is complicated sometimes. HUGS to you!

I want to tell Dale to do that, but with my luck, Dale would hurt someone or kill them accidently.  All it would take would be for Dale to push a child them fall and hit their head and they be dead, this would devistate Dale not to mention the legal problems.  As a matter of fact, when I was talking to one of my attorney's at work about the matter, she said that during college, that exact thing happened, two guys got into a fight and the one that was the victim pushed the other guy, he fell backwards down a flight of stairs and he was killed, the other guy is now in prison!!  I did take pictures and the Metro Police officer for the school talked with both of them and viewed the bruises on Dale himself, just in case I have to have this child arrested next year.  Believe me, if it begins next year, a child will be arrested, along with a very large lawsuit, because I mean this IS and WILL STOP!!! ***OFF TOPIC NOTE  I am hoping that since you are up and posting that this means that you are feeling better???  I pray so!!

I'm doing ok... still on liquid Tylenol.  Still a bit crampy.  I am at this minute coming to the picnic.  I already asked Tim how to get there, and plan on coming.  I do not have any food to bring and was going to ask if there was something I can bring like drinks, cups or anything?  I have to run out to the drugstore to get an antibiotic rx filled.  I can stop and pick up something.  Anything I can get at the deli, maybe like some Boar's head cheese & turkey or something? Ideas? I dont want to come empty handed...

I am so glad that you seem to be doing much better!!!  I am bringing garlic herb marinated chicken tenderloins, mushrooms, onions, and peppers, a mock potato salad, and turkey cheese brats, I believe I have enough for you, but if you want to bring some ice and drinks, that would probably be great!!!  By the way, can you bring me a sample of the Mochaccino and lean dessert, I want to try them before I buy some next week if I like it!!

I am going to bring a few protein bars and slice them up so people can try them if they want to. Ok I will stop and pick up some Tropicana Orangeade and Lemonade drinks.  I think those are good and people usually like them.  Will bring you a sample. I am almost out of Choc Matrix and called Vitamin Shoppe in Rivergate. They are out!  I went to the VS in Cool Springs a few days ago and they were out too.  So I will check back this week.  I hope I can make mine last that long.  My mom uses it too and she's out.  We're sharing the cost of a bag this go around.

Shelia, I think I have said this before...but I really appreciate your standing up for Dale.  A lot of mothers would just ignore it or think it was a normal part of growing up.  I remember those days when my kids were that age so well.  I think this is serious and am glad you think so too.  What is Dale going to do this summer? Marilyn

Well since I am going to be home until September 2, due to surgery, he will be home with me.  However, we have several friends that will be coming over with their children that he loves dearly and I am sure he will spend a lot of time in our pool, he loves to swim!!!  Thanks, but he is my child and it is my responsibility to protect him.  What makes me so upset is if I had placed those marks on my child, I would have been in jail, but because it was another child, it was accepted!!!  Thanks again, it has been tough, but I really do not care what others think, because Dale is my son and I must do what I think is right by him.  Hope you get to feeling better soon, I have been keeping you in my prayers that June 5th will come soon for you, however that will be the day after my surgery and I am not sure if I am ready for the pain!!! LOL

Shelia you are so right by having a paper trail because of this bullying. I'm glad that you called the police and it will be on record. No kid deserves to go through his life bullied. As a teacher I've found out that not everyone teaches their children how to treat other people and they take their anger out on others. Keep being there for Dale and build up his self-esteem. ((hugs))

Yes next time you should have that little brat arrested.  That will get the attention of his parents... to have a juvenile delinquent with a police record. That will surely get some attention!