No Motivation

I don't know what my issue is but I have no motivation to do anything.I think getting started on this road was a hard one for me and being told I couldn't do anything for 6 weeks I think has put a damper on me.I know im NOT getting all my vitamins in (for most make me sick)and protein ekkkk I try to get what I can in with what I eat but being I don't eat much Im not sure if thats working.Exercises ya ok I sit here saying get off your butt and walk...do I go..no..it's to cold is my excuse to myself,(which I know it's fear of others staring, same with the gym which I can use for free on post)I really think alot is to do with my emotions as well.My husband is in MD right now for school won't be back till the 22nd and then he is off to Iraq in june(which last time he was over there he was injured)My kids hate VA (sry gals)they are all failing badley in this school system.I know really no one but other soldiers and most are single.It's a lonley world for me and I think thats bringing me down bad.I thought finally I was going to walk the right road when the cardioligist released me but I have had a UTI now for well over a month and meds are not working so off to the uroligist I go to see if my kidney stones are worse.I did this to be healthy and all that is happening to me is being unhealthy.

Big hugs to you Naomi. I know exactly what you mean. My gall bladder started acting up in November, had surgery in December and since I have had issues with my motivation. I am overwhelmed with some stuff going on in life right now and just frustrated with my lack of energy and motivation. It is hard sometimes. Just remember that the path to success is filled with hard work. Being unhealthy because of not eating right and taking your vitamins etc. will make it harder. Keep working on the protein and the vitamins, try some different kinds if you have too. Once you start getting the nutrients you need it will make it easier to exercise. As for the cold being your excuse, try walking inside. Do laps around the house, dance to the radio, walk the mall, there are lots of options. Try getting the kids to join you so that the whole family can get into it. Remember too that the hormone levels in your body will be higher as you lose the weight which will make your emotions crazy and make everything look harder/worse than it is. You can do this. Courtney

Naomi, I'm not one to preach on motivation because I have none - never did and probably never will. But I will offer you the support of everyone on this website whenever you need it. Everyone is great and always willing to listen and help you out. Take one day at a time and don't get down on yourself. I wish the best for you and your husband. Vickie

Ah man...seems like you have been hit from every angle. No wonder you don't feel motivated. I bet you have clinical depression. Can your doc give you something to get you over the hump here? A litttle antidepressant can go a long way in times like this. Hang in there. It is always darkest before dawn !! Big Hugs, Dana

Naomi- You're not alone. I hit and continue to hit those kinds of roadblocks along the way too. I'm famous for my 2-weeks on 2-weeks off exercise program...not the best way to see results! SO...I would encourage you to start small...baby steps. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. Celebrate your small victories. You need to make your health a priority...you're worth it! Hang in there, Christina S PS....did you get those protein bars I sent you?

That is so me..I did good for like one week then it seems im going back down agian.My dr does feel that some of my no motivation is when my levels (coumadin) drop which right now dropped all the way to a 1.2 so he uped them.Will see if that works when I am back to level. PS...Yes I got them in the mail yesterday and was going to send you a note this am.I tried one last night..not to bad but boy they are BIG..lol..Thanks agian

Hey Naomi, Where in VA are ya? I am seriously lacking motivation these days too, trust me, I understand.. but you are SO new post op, you need to find it within yourself to "do the deeds". Seriously. Vitamins will sustain you.. they are going to be your crutch, whether you feel like they are doing any good or not. It takes a LONG time for deficiencies to show up.. DONT wait them out. Once you are deficient, it takes TOO long to counter-react. Just do them, period! I totally understand the feeling of lone-li-ness that I get from your post. Your husband is serving his country, supporting his family, etc... and you are left behind. Let yourself live each day, and try to think of healthy ways to get by. I know, easier said than done, but as a new post-op, do yourself a favor, and favor yourself. Go to the gym, walk at the park, do laps around the block.. help yourself.. You WILL feel better! As far as your kids hating VA... who wouldn't? LOL... my kids seem to love it, and its gotten my family nowhere.. so I understand. But, the happier you are, and the more active you are, will be felt by your kids. Get yourself to "force" enthusiasm for exercise, in anyway you can. Walk, take your kids.. work out, take the kids.. do what you can to include them.. Hopefully they will come around.. but most importantly, focus on YOU! Wendy

IM in Hopewell.I just needed to clear a few things..lol..I do take SOME vitamins..on an everyday basiss??...no..I wish I remember to but being that I am on 14 medications (that are not vitamins) I get tired of poping pills.I do take my flintstone and my vitamin C and B-12.I can not get that a&d one in..It comes up everytime.I also try to eat protein bars if I need the extra protein from not getting it in with food . As far as my kids getting off there butt to do something with me..lol..thats a funny one..I would have to pay them one way or another..lol

Naomi, I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. Being so new at being post op all the advice I have is towards the exercise end. I know exactly what you mean by you don't want people staring at you. Well look at it this way.....think of the positive aspect of these same people seeing the weight just drop off of you. How everyone will be thinking wow her husband is one lucky guy. I do that to make myself get out there. Then when I get there I realize that nobody is looking at me....lol....at all....hehe. So it just doesn't matter. Do this for yourself first then for those you love. Like everyone else said find some vitamins that don't make you sick and same with protein. Make yourself take and eat or drink them. I don't care much for protein drinks but make myself drink them as I know my body needs this now. Try the profect 3oz drinks in a vial. There isn't that much and even if you don't like the taste it doesn't take long to get one down. Please take care of yourself..you really do not want to be deficient in anything as it will do long term damage to your system. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you are able to find a path you can take. Big (((((hugs))))) Anna

Wow, you are having a go of it for sure. I know I am a guy not a girl, but had trouble keeping stuff down at first too. I found some different vitamins that were smaller at Walgreens. I also had the exhausted feeling that really frustrated me. An OH.com friend in NC that is a nurse recommended sublingal liquid B complex which I still take in addition to my B12 vitamin. I also had low iron and now take a prenatal plus a multi-vitamin with iron to get what I need to get oxygen through my blood and to my muscles. I had some kidney malfunctions and am finding Quaker oatmeal breakfast bars (2 oz each) as a meal or occasional snack keep things moving better and they have taste !!!! I also noted you live in Hopewell. I am in Colonial Heights, serve on the school board there and am an active member of the LDS Church in the area taht has leadership meetngs on Thursdays so it conflict with me attending the local support group mtg at John randolph or the ones at St Mary's where I had surgery. I also saw your profile on Comonwealth surgeons weblink for OH.com. If I can help or if a visit to see what vitamins you are using and if I can set you up with something easier to swallow, I 'd be glad to help. But if that would only make you more nervous or uncomfortable, I understand that too. Walking, can you walk at the mall or Walmart, or somewhere indoors. The recent cold waves have dampened my walking efforts too and I've registered for the UKROPS 10K Mar 31 with my brother and brother-in-law, so I gotta keep moving so I don't kill or embarrass myself. Of course I might anyway but it seemed like a good way to keep myself motivated. Let me know if I can help. Joe [email protected] 734-2137 (w) daytime at Fort Lee