Leave

In my favorites, the link I have is to the "GBP Virginia Boards."  That's all I look at. I must be reading the right stuff and ignoring/skipping over all of the  right stuff because I'm confused and haven't seen any negativity...lol. I pick and choose what I read and normally, it's just from the local 'friends' here. That's it. I hate to see you all go.  I guess I don't get how you can let someone else's issues control your life and make you lose sleep and not come here anymore.  I understand that there might be some negativity, but you don't have to read it or respond to it OR let it dictate what you do in your life.  It doesn't even have to make you angry.  If you're emotionally unstable at a point  and don't think you can handle it,  then you probably shouldn't even bother reading the posts from certain people.     As I said before, only you can give someone that power over you. Some people just aren't happy people and never will be - no matter how skinny they are. They might think that what they have to say is true, just because they say it.   They WANT you to think it's true, too. It's THEIR issue, not yours. They might think that their opinion matters - when, in reality,  it doesn't. They WANT to affect you, but really, they don't matter to you. It's their issue, not yours. They WANT what they have to say to matter.  It only does if you let it. You all need to hang with Joy for some ice-lessons! Honestly, I've learned this stuff through the internet years and having to work with all catty-ass women and 2 gay  men.  If you don't learn to let THEIR issues and comments roll off your back,  you are the only one who pays for it and it will ruin your day if you let it.  I've been there.  I've worked in the same place for the last 5 years with the same 30 mostly sorry, unhappy  people. My few 'close' friends laugh at me (envy me, really) because, at work, I don't give much of a damn what those people think about me or anyone else. (they like to comment about my weight loss, how loose my clothes are...)  What they think or say or whisper about me or anyone else, doesn't matter to me.  It doesn't affect me.  More than that, I'll tell them where to get off and point out to them that they ought to look at themselves before looking at someone else. Bottom line.   I'm a very quiet person, but if you attempt offend me, standby because you're gonna wish you hadn't...lol.  (notice that I say 'attempt')   Pick and choose who you tell your issues to.  Some negative folks just thrive on other peoples issues.  They want to see you as miserable as they are. Judy darlin,  I might not comment on alot of posts, but I do read them.  Concentrate on YOU. You deserve it.  If you think you need to leave for a little while, then that's what you should do for now.  I know that when you come back,  you'll be a stronger person, because you've put YOU first.  That's what counts.      Jill, I hate to see you go.  You are such a wealth of helpful info and encouraging as all get out.  You're the energizer bunny!

Robin,  you are such a caring, happy, perky, smiley person and your words are so encouraging. I hate to see you go. Man...my friends list is going to be almost empty :-( Us recent post-ops need all of you. Look forward to seeing some of you all tomorrow night for some brisket!   xo Joy