scared

hello everyone my surgery is on the 30th and im really excited about it but wondering did i make the wrong choice because im really scared of something going wrong... and i'm more worried for my family what will my children do without thier mother? what will my mother do? my husband? its so hard for me i feel like im being selfish by getting this surgery in some aspects in others i know i need it..... i just dont want anything to go wrong and reading about that guy who died from the lap band get me really worried... what if i get a blood clot .... i dont know im just have a variety of mixed emotions!

I'd be surprised if you weren't a bit scared! Your feelings are perfectly normal. think about it--you could just as well die if you didn't get the surgery. Obesity has it's own set of risks and complications. Think of all the things you will be able to do after your surgery.  Keep coming here for support.

Scared is normal!  Just make sure you follow the rules so you can be on the right side of surgery statistics.  when the dr tells you to get up and walk - do it!  When the dr tells you what to eat - eat it!  Whe the dr tells you to drink liquids and consume protein - do it! When the dr tells you not to lift anything over 10 lbs - DON'T do it!  Enjoy the next two weeks - they are a prelude to a new exciting life!

Everything you are feeling is completely normal.  I think just about evey one of us went through it before we had surgery.  There are some risks involved but there are risks involved by being obese.  You are making a choice for a healthy new you.  Try and relax and focus on the excitement of the new you.

Congratulations on your upcoming surgery! Its completely normal to be feeling and experiencing a wide range of emotions. You are not alone. I still remember what it feels like as the build up to surgery got a bit closer and things got me thinking. But, it is by far one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life and there may be tough days but honest there are more good ones coming your way. You are not being selfish. In fact, put things in perspective. You are making a life changing decision that comes with changes that will aide you in taking care of yourself therefore giving you the strength, stamina, etc to care for those who are your life. Its a saying one must first take care of themselves to care for others. Its good to be prepared at every turn arming yourself with knowledge and although there are some cases where the outcome has not been pleasant we have to have hope, faith and determination to see this through. Lean on us for support! Keep posting and we will keep being here. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. BREATHE!

"and i'm more worried for my family what will my children do without thier mother?" What if you do not have the  surgery ... you will most likely die from your co-morbidites .. I think putting your trust in the surgeon and in your faith ... and in this surgery .. will save your life . Would you rather your kids see you die from a heart attack or a diabetes related illness ?? The surgery is a scary surgery .. but sweety .. I went from having full blown diabetes .. insulin 2 x a day .. to now taking no meds .. and my feet are healed .. this surgery will save your life .. Selfish ... No way .. you are demonstrating that you love yourself .. and that you want to live .. put that thought out of the way .. what will my mother do? my husband? its so hard for me i feel like im being selfish by getting this surgery in some aspects in others i know i need it.  Again .. what will they do .. >?  They will have you around a lot longer to love and to create memories with .. your husband will have a healthier .. sexier .. more vibrant woman in his life ..  Yes you can die from this surgery .... you can die anywhere .. at anytime ... Put your faith in your surgeon .. and if you believe in God ... as I do .. you trust him to take you through this .. and he will . Tell you a little story .. on the day I had my surgery ... I opened my arms .. and told God .. Get me through this ... and I will pay back with each person I touch in my journey ... .I woke up in ICU 7 hours later .. and here I am 3 years out ...  As to the guy that died in with the Lap Band .. it was his time ... and possibly there where other co-morbids we did not know about .  I will PM you my phone # if you want it .. and when you start feeling like this .. call me ..  Big Hugs .. and Much Love and Respect for Taking Back your life !  Tink

wow i can definitly get support from all of you when i need .... its nice to know thier are people that care about what i feel .... you all are truely amazing thank you for every one of your comments and mrs tinkerbella i definitly can count on you to never let me down lol your such a sweet heart ... i mean a month ago i just felt like my surgery would never be here it was surreal and now only 2 weeks away im getting more nervous and definitly scared i know we all have our time to go but i dont want to go now. but i know we dont get to choose our destiny... we all come into this world with invisible flash cards around our neck telling us what age we are going to go..... and just you never know... i never thought i would be trusting a MAN with my life but atleast he finished high school :) thanks everyone again for you support!  :)

I am scheduled for the 30th and have the samr ange of emotions as you. I think it is normal, I mean I have thought about everything. If I die, what will my kids, and my husband do? But, I have to think that if I make it through this surgery which I am sure I will, the benefits of losing weight will be so much better.  Hopefully I can get off High Blood Pressure meds. I just want to be healthy because I NEVER play with my kids, I want to be able to go outside, run, play and have energy, now I cant do that! We will make it through this on the 30th!! Stay positive and optimistic, and have faith in the surgeon and God.  I will keep you in my thoughts.