My Butt hurts (Long Post)

Happy Monday everyone, Has anyone experienced there butt hurting. It feel like I have been sitting all day long or has been on a long trip and my butt muscles got tired from sitting. This has been going on for about 2 weeks now.

Also after WLS has anyone experienced being scard to loose the weight. I mean with the new life change and succeeding. Yesterday, I went shopping in the mall. I wanted to find something to wear to Kings Dominion next weekend. I went straight for Lane Bryant. I could not fit anything in the store. My niece was with me and she was like Aunt Mo you need to go next door,  I went next door to New York and Co and got a pair of jean shorts and a top that I paid total of $14 for both items. I got a large top and a size 16 shorts I think I could have gotten into a 14 but they did not have that size on the rack. I think the reason why I was scared is because I still have the fat girl mind. l mean like the other women in the store looking and asking themselves why is this fat girl in this store, she can't fit the clothes. I kept asking by niece by the way is 12 how does this look, do I look fat in this, she replies and say no you look cute. She is so sweet making her auntie feel good. Also. I don't know how to shop anymore, i used to hate shopping because I hated to try on clothes. Now my BFF is like lets go shopping and try on clothes and I 'm just not there mentally with that. Has anyone felt this way?  How do I get out of this mind set that I am in?????? Mo

HI sweet Mo First off let me congratulate you on your weight loss.   It is a scary thing to lose the weight.  Why is it so scary?  Because we have been used to living our lives one way.  When we were obese, it wasn't like we had much of a choice in shopping for "cute" clothes.  We had to settle for what was in our size.  Now that we have lost the weight and can shop, it is scary to be able to make other choices, no matter if it is FUN.  Unfortunately it takes a long time for our minds to catch up with how we look in the mirror.  We still see the "fat girl" when we look at her because I believe that it's hard to let go of that former self.  We have to really work hard to "fix" our mind sets.  Here is a suggestion..Look in that mirror everyday and find something that you like and tell yourself you look great and you are proud of yourself.  Put a before picture on your mirror and look at that every time you look in there.  You have come so far Mo.  I am so proud of you, but be proud of yourself.  Make a list of things you couldn't do before your wls, then check them off when you have accomplished them..Save the list, and go back later to look at them.  It is very hard and very scary to have a life change even though it is a good one.  Good changes can be scary too.  It takes a while , but you will get there.   Love yourself, Hugs

Thanks Judy, I never knew that I would be at this point that I am at in my life. I mean I have my twins, I have my husband. I have my heath. I am so happy. I just didn't think I would be scared to walk into a clothing store for thin people. I was always talking about I can't wait until I can wear a size 14 or 16. Now that I am finally in it I am scared. I am going to work with this. Thanks so much. 264/188/160 Mo

Oh yes as for your hurting butt.  You have less cushion there.  So you may want to try sitting on a pillow or donut cushion to see if that helps.  I know my butt hurts now more than it did prior to wls...but i have a broken tailbone and since losing the weight it hurts more now.  I believe in time you will get used to it as your body adjusts. Hugs

Your mind set starts with each day waking up .. looking into that mirror and loving what you see . You will begin to melge into the thin person that was under all that obesity . Trust me .. I am 3 years out . and at times I still find myself wanting to go to the Plus size ... It does get better ..  Take the oposite aproach as well ... tell yourself you are that thin person .. and remind your brain each time to go to the right department .. in time it will get it ...  The mirror can play trick with you .. but do not let it ... You are getting thin ..and it takes our mind some time to catch up ..  As to the bum ... OMG .. it gets better .. but you are loosing and no more cusion girl .. get a pillow .. LOL ..  Hugs,  Tink

Tink, I nevr thought I would be scared to go shopping. I have no winter clothes so I am really going to have to get my butt in gear and get over this fear of going into the store. I loke the idea that you and Judy had about me standing in the mirror I am going to try that. thanks a lot.... Mo

Mo- OMGoodness! I totally relate!  My tailside started hurting and I wondered what was up too!  My chiropractor is the one that (literally and figuratively!) set me straight.  Yep, less cushion.  I'm told it'll get better, or do we just get used to it?! As for the mental stuff....I'm so with you. When I close my eyes, I still see that big girl I was a year ago....I still do things that she would do, like get nervous when I have to "squeeze" through something (then I fit and I go "duh!") or worried about fitting in a chair (then have plenty of room). The shopping thing is hard for me as well. I also get a bit panicky in the misses section...like everyone is looking at me and wondering why I'm there. Of course, it's been so long since I've been able to shop in those areas of the store that (1) I have a hard time finding them! (2) Everything looks like it's made for a 15 year old or a hooker! (3) What size do I take in the fitting room!?  The best shopping trip was with my mom...she kept encouraging me to try things on that were smaller than my mind could imagine...of course, they fit and looked great (moms know best!).  So I guess I'd say just hang in there and go with a trusted friend (or mom!).  And work everyday to change your mind about your body image....It's not easy....I still struggle with it too.

MO .. here is one for you . You have seen my before pics .. and imagine walking into a store like NY .. or for this instance it was Cato's . My sister was with me .. and I kept thinking I needed a size 12 .. well no .. she kept bringing me smaller sizes .. and by the time we where finished .. it was a size 6 .. MO .. I have was never a size 6 when I was 6 ...  It was at that moment .. I realized .. I was NO LONGER A FAT CHICK .. yepper .. I bought 6 pairs of those jeans .. LOL ..  Now I am a size 3 - 4 . imagine trying now to find clothes .. I just had to go to the Kids JR size to get this dang Tink T Shirt I wanted .. LIfe is so good .. yet so different .. Enjoy it .. it only gets better .  Tink

Christina, my mom said that we were going to pick a day and go. She is a good shopper and will a big help with picking out clotes. Part of me can't wait but the other part is like scared to death. I will overcome this... Mo

Hey Mo :) Althought I haven't had my surgery yet I just wanted to send a big hug!    You had the courage to have the WLS, you will have the courage to embrace the new you! One day at a time, one moment at a time.  Lots of love is around you!

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- Mandy