Is it true concern or jealousy????

Hey Everyone,  I was just wanting some imput on this issue that I'm sure everyone who has lost a significant amount of weight has experienced.  First of all let me say that according to my BMI, I am still overweight, just slightly but still in that category.  This past week I have had at least 10 people (friends & family) to say that I've lost enough weight and I'm beginning to look sick.  That if I don't stop this now I am going to make myself sick.  What gives???  I don't feel sick.  All my blood levels are normal and I have more energy than I've had in 20 years.  I've also been told that the weight loss makes me look old.  Perhaps I'm blind to my own looks but I don't think I look older but younger.  I just don't understand why some people are so obcessed with how much weight I lose.  Funny how they talk about you when you're fat and even more so when you are thinner.  I just wanted you guys imput on this subject.  It is very frustrating to constantly defend something you've worked so had to accomplish. Kathy

Been there, done that, have the t-shirt (SIZE S  )   I think there is certainly a degree of concern on their part, but there is also a green streak of envy showing as well.  I just thank them for their concern and move along.  Your body will know when it i time to stop. Take care!

Thanks Joann.... I do know that some are concerned about me.  There is a lot to get used to.  I do know that my body will stop when the time is right.  I'm happy and that's really all that matters.  I could see the concern if I was having health issues but other than my broken foot (long story, ask Nat)  lmao!!   Thank you for your support!  It's so good to be back in touch with everyone.

Kathy- I'm with Joann...your body will know when to stop.  Also just remember that we all carry weight differently. I had a personal trainer recently be shocked to hear how much I weight (still).  He thought I weighed a lot less...of course, that's good and bad....I still want to reach a goal number, but I'm sure at that point some will say to stop because of the way I look. I'm going to let my body decide.  Of course, those around us have seen us at our largest and they need a mind adjustment just like we do/did.  I envy you for feeling good and confident about the way you look. I'm still struggling to get my mind to catch up.

Hey Christina, Yes, I remember you and I both had our surgery in July 06.  What a fabulous year its been.  And I have to say it's only getting better.  I never knew how good it would feel to shop in the regular size shops, not to mention clothes are cheaper and you can find so many more things you absolutely love.   Thanks for your imput.  I feel sure that I will stop lossing when my body reaches what is normal for me.  I'm so happy with the changes I've seen thus far.  Of course the excess skin is another issue all together.  LOL And btw, you look great!!!  You are such a beautiful girl.  I hope to hear more from you as time goes by  Take care and again thank you for rsponding to my post. Always, Kathy

Hello Kathy glad to  see you back. Do not let what everyone says bother you and you know that you are where you want to be. Like some will say that only you need to be happy with the way you look and feel. I congulate all of you for losing the weight and making yourselves a healther life. Listen to yourself and not so much of that of others. They have not been in your shoes and do not know what it feels like to be obease and then to be a normal size and they are just jealous. This is coming from someone who knows and wishes to be small but I guess that one day it will happen.

Hi there, It has been a long time since I've heard from you.  You look really great.  I am sorry tohear that you are still waiting to get your approval.  What a long wait its been for you.  It is my prayer that you will hear something positive soon.   Thank you for your imput and positive comments.  it is so good to have friends on here that support and stand behind you all the way.  Even when it's someone like me that doesn't always stick around on the board.  Of course I'm working 2 jobs now so I don't have too much time for being online.  The only raason I've been here for the past few days is due to me breaking my foot last weekend.  Silly me!! Always, Kathy

Yep I agree with the others.  I am sure there is some concern on peoples part.  The ones that see us all the time are used to seeing us big and it is a big adjustment to see us small.  There is definitely some envy mixed in because they wish their bodies were different in some way too.  I never believed I would reach my dr. goal and never set my own goal.  From the very beginning I let my body decide.  Guess what, my body decided to get to dr. goal and then stop.  I stay at goal or a few lbs lighter (always have that 2-3 lbs to toss around).  Could I really push and lose more if I wanted to, yes but I am happy where I am, work to maintain and feel so much better about myself.  Let your body go where it wants, work  on learning to love yourself.  It will all come together.

Hi Courtney, It is so good to see you again.  I know that most people mean well with their concern but I think when you hear it over and over again, it just gets old fast.  And you can't help but to think what is the deal with everyone.  LOL   I am about 9 lbs, to my doctor's goal.  I really want to loss down at least 20 lbs lower.  That's my insurance just incase I have a weight gain.  I figure that way I will stay in the doctor's range of what is healthy.   Honestly, I'm not really trying to loss anything.  It just kinda falls off and I am excited with every pound that leaves my body.  I can't tell you how exciting it is to shop for clothes in a regular shop that doesn't specialize in plus sizes.  LOL Thanks for your reply Countney.  I wish you continued success in your maintanence.  You've done awesome!! Always, Kathy

I got that reaction when I hit 150 lbs. I just ignored it because technically I was still in the overweight category and my docs original goal for me was 138. People are just not used to seeing you thin. I don't think it's jealousy per say, but more like they are not used to you being thinner. It's a natural reaction to change. I still have an aunt who says that I'm still too skinny. I do know that in her particularly case it is jealousy. She has gained about 40 lbs since I had WLS. She can't stand that I'm now much smaller than her.  BTW, you look fabulous to me! Ignore the naysayers!