I know that this topic has been beaten to death but...

Wow,  I had just thought about posting on this subject.  I went to a job I only do once a month the other day and I got all kinds of comments.  Now keep in mind they were all very supportive when I told them what I was going to do.  It was all men who made the comments like we are going to have to put rocks in your shoes to keep you from blowing away, another comment was the same but he used lead in my shoes, and another was you are going to dry up and blow away.  I am in normal weight range now but my diabetis is still a little high so my pcp wants to see if that will go down a few more numbers with loosing another 15 pounds.  Honestly, I am not sure where 15 more will come from but that would still put me about 10 above where I was from high school so maybe it is possible.  I haven't lost any weight in a month now but about 1 1/2 pounds so getting very doubtful I will hit the new goal.  I think in a way people are being nice and it is their way of saying, way to go.  Take it as such and not in a negative way.  Thats how I handle it.
Good luck!!

I think the hard truth for many of us is that we will, indeed, look "too thin" to many people as we approach goal weight. The reason is that our faces became distended over time with all of the fat, and when we lose weight our faces "deflate" somewhat.

Oh well. If I eventually look "too thin" to some people, so be it....

Thanks you all for the advice!

I havent been asking for opinions from anyone but my husband and closest of friends--and my mamma too. These people are neighbors mostly--and my mom thinks I should stop. I guess that I felt bombarded yesterday because while I have gotten used to the random comment,  but this day was one right after the other. I didnt ask them for their opinion--but they gave it! LOL!


I normally dont worry at all about those comments but yesterday in particular was one right after the other and I began to question myself. I began to wonder if they see something I dont see? I see ME when I look in a mirror---I always have so when I would gain a lot of weight I didnt see it, and same with the weight loss. I see it in pictures. Anyway, you guys have given me some awesome feedback! Thank you so much! I want to keep going and lose a bit more. I LOVE being so much lighter! I love my sleeve!

Thanks again!

I spoke with my PCP about it because I, too, have been known to be body dysmorphic and wanted to make sure I wasn't, indeed, too thin.  She calculated my BMI and said my weight was 'perfect' (first time I've EVER heard that from a doc!) and proceeded to tell me that society's idea of what is a normal weight is skewed.  She said a majority of people are overweight so people now think of overweight as normal and normal weight as thin.  

When I was still losing, close to goal but not yet there (I think pretty much where you are right now) and fielding those comments I would say "I've got a goal that is in the normal weight range and approved by my doctor.  I'm not there, yet, but close.  I assure you that when I get there I'll stop losing weight.  I've come this far and I just want to be as healthy as possible."  That usually gave them all the info they needed and seemed to ease their minds.  

It's flattering and nice to hear, but on the other hand, you've come too far to stop just short of goal...at least that's the way I felt about it.  You can always gain back some weight if you need to...wouldn't that be FUN?  =D 

I hope his helps~

Leslie this does help! Thank you so much! I cant wait to be "perfect" just like you! ;o) You go girl!

XOXOXO!

It's where you are comfortable with and what your doctor says is a healthy weight for you!  I also like to look at pics as a reference-- usually keeps the reality a bit more real-- and looking at pics now I don't think you look to thin~     and MY OPINION counts!

Your my girl so your opinion will ALWAYS count! How are you doing? Start solids yet? How much have you lost so far? Are you taking progression pics for me to see???

Are you going to the patient reunion in March?

LOVE YA BABE!