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I do agree with Jachary though. Carmen when I first got out of surgery I really did count on your posts and funny pics to help me through some of the tough times. I even saved some of my fav pics to give myself a laugh when I needed it. I don't want to continue to be apart of some OH "witch hunt" because you posted something that seemed out of character and then it got totally out of hand. I don't want to judge you off these posts at all after my first impression was so good. Bottom line is I don't know you and vice versa, so it is pretty dumb. Not to sound cheesy or condescending in any way, but this whole thing has gotten blown WAY out of proportion and I just wanted to say (in my overly idealistic fashion) that if something else is bothering you or if you aren't ok right now...there are still a ton of people here *****gardless of the last thread, support you and are here for you (not that you need it, but if you do). On a final note...newbies like me might take what you say so literally because we look at your profile and you have lost almost a hundred pounds. That feels IMPOSSIBLE to me right now...so whether you like it or not you are inspiring and represent the thing that we never think we are going to achieve. Again, that is not your job to do that for us, but I just hope you aknowledge the good you do do...even if you don't mean to. Ok I am taking my Ass to the gym so I can give you a run for your money someday :) Lata!
IMO, part of getting healthy means having a thick enough skin to handle the truth, even when we don't want to hear it. I recognize that not everyone is at that stage, and that others may disagree about what the "truth" may be. But shooting straight with each other seems like a pretty big part of what OH is all about.
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Guillermo Alvarez M.D. VSG (06/01/09) Member Since: 02/18/09
[Latest Posts]Post Date: 11/2/09 7:37 pm
honestly it's not like y'all are 8 years old... if posts like mine are going to cause you to lock yourselves in your bathrooms and cry for hours in front of the mirror, then you have bigger issues than me... it's un-******g-believable and kinda ridiculous how "weak" and "fragile" you people are..."
I did not read the entire thread, just her OP and a few of the early responses. There is no question that Carmen can be a little salty in her choice of words at times, and you may have a preference for a nicer tone to go with her message. If I was on the receiving end of that I would probably think it was a little harsh and overstated, but if you filter out the hyperbole there is some truth in her words.
My take on the VSG board is that it is a civil, nice place 90% of the time. The occasional flare-up, venting, or disagreement is going to happen. It is hard to post a topic that you are fired up about without offending somebody, and I choose to perceive Carmen (and all OH members for that matter) for her entire body of work here.
Her underlying point -- that we need to be responsible for our actions post-op and change our old ways -- remains valid and is worth bringing up when necessary.
