I need you say in this matter.

In the same situation with my grandmother with the added fact that if one of us is sick she has us half dead. That's how bad she worries. She has no clue 6 mo later that my sister and I had surgery. She is over the moon that we're losing the weight and getting healthy. BTW she thinks I lost 30 lbs. I had to laugh at that when my mom told me.

 I won't tell her - I had my surgery a year ago and have never told my parents - my Mom is a worrier and has heart problems.