Hate-o-rade!!!

Ok, so I've read on here before about how some relationships/friendships can change after undergoing WLS.  But I thought, "naw, not MY friends, never!"  So you can imagine my shock and dismay when one of my friends, (who is also SMO) made a snide comment to me about my weight loss.  She said "Oh you think you're cute now, b/c you've lost a little weight"  I couldn't believe my ears.  This is the same woman who I supported when her husband died 3 years ago, why would she say something like that to me? But I let it go and thought, perhaps she's having a bad day.  Then I overheard two of the people I volunteer with, hypothesizing over why I've lost weight.  I heard, that I'm sick, possibly dying, pregnant.  Which that may be my fault since I chose not to tell them about my WLS.  But still, I'm shocked that these people who I've considered friends are now suddenly making snide remarks about me all because I've lost some weight.  Anyone else ever have this happen?

Had to chime in on this one. You hit it right on the head Haters. I live in a small town and when i had my lap band in 2007 I lost 100 pounds within the first year, girl I heard it ALL (cracked out AIDS) you name it. Its sad that nosey ass people have nothing better to do with their time. I SAY HATE ON HATERS..  In my opinion they asses can say what they want cause I'm about to hurt them with this sleeve (just give me a few more months) Imma give them something to talk about. SUPER SEXY is coming lol. Brush your shoulders off and keep your head high. Best wishes and continued success.

I love your post! hehehe
Why are women so mean? 
I haven"t had surgery but man about seven years ago I managed to lose 80lbs. Two of my co-workers talked about it for years One is a size 4 and the other a 6 and thought they should be the only one I guess. I never got below a 8 or 138lbs but they tried to tell everyone in my department oh you should have seen her her she was too little. She looked awful. I have had to repeatly argue with one and say I know how much I weighed I checked everyday to get there.
Great post keep bringing sexy back!

Thanks Monica, I'm brushing the shoulders and poppin the collar as I type. lol.

jealousy makes people do crazy things.

seeing that you have changed your life, that it is possible no matter how you did it makes people unable to use excuses to why they dont make the changes.

true friends will be happy for you making positive changes. this is so hard for women i have found, to support each other when one is losing weight.

whatevs! they can all choke on their haterade!! anyone who isnt on team kristen can go fly a kite.

I second sassy!

lol Sassy, I'm lovin the "choke on their haterade!"

yep! not anyone close to me but people I see on a daily basis at work. They said I've had cancer, some people said I starve myself (thanks, but I eat 5 times a day). The one girl who is totally obsessed with how I look would qualify for this surgery too; she's the worst. She has started so many rumors about me at work. Her whole "posse" gangs up on me...and they are ALL older than me! Grown women (some with KIDS my AGE) acting lke this out of 100% pure jealousy....I got lots o' haters girl....never had one in my life and it feels WONDERFUL..because that mean's I'm doing something right **** the haters...you do you and be fabolous!

My sister has always trailed me by about 50 to 75lbs. That being said we have both been big forever. I am older and have always been bigger. When my surgery was coming up, I mentioned by our birthdays (in the same month) I would be borrowing her clothes. She said: "Aww heck no, I need to get my butt in gear, I can't let you pass me up and me be bigger than you." OMG she really said that. I chuckled it off but thought: Watch! I didn't do this for any of those jerks that want to be "haters." I did this for my family. While my sister is my family I did this for myself, my hubby, and my kids/grand kids; not siblings, parents, (my dad disapproves of surgery) or any friends. So they can do/say what they want & I'm gonna do/say what i want and that is loose weight and be healthier and happier for me and mine.

I hear ya... My sister said to me.. Great! Now i am going to be the fat sister.. I was like REALLY? I don't think she meant to hurt my feelings. I think she is just a little jealous that i am on my way in losing weight. Just gotta keep moving on.

I remember I used to feel somewhat jealous when people lost weight and I was still the same or gaining. I think it is natural. No excuse to be hateful though!

Try to let it roll off your back.

Lisa