Explaining my hiatus (long and opinionated - be warned)

Well said.

Well said!!!
As for the 3 week stall, I learned after posting to try upping my protein and water.   Something I would not have known or thought of if I had not posted about it.      Almost all of the posts are asking for info, not whining, and for that I am thankful.    And, some are just plain funny, LOL, which make me laugh (in a good way)!

HOLY FRICKEN AMEN. . .

I can honestly say that this is what I was getting at in my original reply. In the grand scheme of things, we're all here to help each other. If I can't help someone because I know they want to be coddled, or patted on the head because they ate 400 calories in Reese's peanut butter cups, then it's best I say nothing at all. Unfortunately, support comes in many forms, if my reply is not going to be supportive in a productive manner, there is no need for me to waste my energy or time when they are just looking for "their type" of support.

As a pre-op who has been on the boards now for about 6 months, I do see the same questions over and over. But when I first started coming on, I WANTED to hear the whining, complaining and praise for the sleeve. I wanted to know the good, the bad and the ugly! I can't promise that I won't "whine" when I am newly sleeved, but I will not be whining about all the things I've learned; like the 3 week stall. I'll say to myself, "oh, this is a temporary time that WILL pass). I do get tired of seeing the same 'ol questions every day, but I just choose not to open those threads now. I open the ones that say NSV and surgiversary and especially the ones with Pix!! I know what to expect now, so I only need the encouraging posts.

In a perfect world, everyone would do a search and find out some things, but I do hope that you will continue to offer your wisdom for the people who are just starting out as newbies. There are new people everyday! HUGE kudos to Sublimate for doing the fAQ post every couple of days!
Thanks again for all you do for others!

The only thing that comes to mind when I read this post is "kiss my grits."  :)  I would have been LOST without those who helped me through the first month and continue to help with their experiences.  So glad you are a rock of all things and think everyone else should be like you.  My WLS did NOT give me all the info I needed.  I also posted here months before my surgery and didn't read many posts on how hard it was.  It was kind-hearted people who give a crap about others that took the time to pitch in some encouraging words.  You are not that type and that is ok.  Glad you didn't post on one of my "whiny" posts because you would have sounded like captain bring down.  So much for being upbeat and positive.  Someone who talks down about others who are struggling is not a positive person.  A positive person try to uplift others.  I hope to have your success one day and that of many others who are on here happy about your post and saying right on.  I did research everything and sometimes it feels better to "hear" it from someone who cares enough about you to respond.  Everyone who doesn't like whiners can bite me.  I for one will NEVER turn my back on someone who needs help, or maybe even a kick in the butt.  No two people are the same and people have all different kinds of emotions and ways of dealing with things.  The important part was they took a step to change their life for the better and deserve support.  Guess what annoys me?  Holier than thou people who judge others and think they have all the answers for how others should act.  BUT, I will still post here. :)

Love always,
"Whiney newbie who asks questions on a forum"

 I'm just going to point you to the response Briar Rose made above you because she said it better than I could and THOSE are the people Leanne is talking about. If you got offended, well, that's not her problem, really. You can choose to be offended or you can choose not to be. That part is up to you. :)

Who said anything had to be her problem?  Sounds to me like you are in some way offended.  A little snarky.  I don't care what she thinks.  She posted on this forum something I find to be cold and stupid, so I responded with my opinion.  My opinion doesn't change.  So if someone is struggling with their food addiction after surgery and says they wanty a pizza, they are posting here to get help. You can read about something all you want but when it happens to you it's new to you and I understood that this board was for asking question, no matter how dumb.  Not everyone thinks that way and that's ok.  But, when you post about those who have done that and make them feel stupid, and other vets are agreeing, this discourages newbies and "whiners" from feeling safe to post here.  I would say to you, you can CHOSE to be offended or CHOOSE not to be offended.  I spoke my mind and gave my honest opinion. I just hope that someone new doesn't read her post and become scared to ask questions.  ALL people deserve respect and ALL people are worthy of posting even if their opinions are questionalble like this post. :) 

 I wasn't offended :) But she chose to be offended, hence my response. She chose to read insult to her personally into the words instead of reading the message. But, hey, we're all entitled to our opinions right? Feel free to ignore me if you don't like mine. :)

Sounds to me like you CHOSE to be offended by my words, too. Touche, eh?

I agree with you foodlover! Couldnt have said it better myself!!!

Wow, for a newbie, this post and many of the replies are just depressing. Yes, you can search, but sometimes it feels good just to "get it out there" to others who know your pain.

Glad it's working for you, but sad you aren't willing to spread some of the love around. Certain folks around here seem to be very cliquish. Which is really sad. One would hope you could think back to how it was for you. I've seen just as many positive and supportive posts as whiney. Perhaps you see what you expect to see?

As someone that's been researching this for over five years, I know a lot of stuff on my own, but it still feels good to have what I thought was a safe place to talk about it and get stuff off of your chest.

A very sad post indeed.