Screening calls....

Sadly this surgery has caused a rift between me and certain family members.

I haven't talked to my aunt from NY since the night she called to lecture me on how I wasnt thinking right, going to mexico and not getting enough pre op, that i needed to see several drs before that etc etc .

One aunt I am fine with, she isnt thrilled but she understands...

Now the other I cannot even answer the phone. She has mental issues. She is being treated for them but sometimes she doesnt always take what she needs to or takes too much I suspect and she is fanatically religious. No offense to any christians, she just overdoes it big time... like trying to exorcise a big screen tv once...or telling my my father is in hell (this resulted in her almost getting punched...luckily my husband has fast reflexes)

Anyways... I know she is not always all there so rather than confront her I have just been hitting reject and listening to voicemails. Some are on amusing, some just annoy me. She calls several times a day to try and talk me out of my surgery and leaves LONG voicemails about how if I just believe in GOD  he would help me lose weight, there is nothing wrong with my stomach.

First off, and not to offend anybody but I am not Christian. I suppose the closest thing you could compare me to is Wiccan, but I am not tying myself down to a name. I believe what I believe and I believe that it means I should be the best person I can. That being said, while yes I agree believing a higher being can gives you strength to do things is good, a lot of it is US. After all even in christianity god gave us free will, therefore he cant MAKE US NOT OVEREAT OR WANT BAD FOODS!  She is trying to talk me into going into some sort of religious retreat which..no NOT doing...

Then she goes on about if I can't stop myself from overeating now, how can I then? Simply put, I may still have to contend with that BUT it will be slightly easier since I wont have a bottomless pit of a stomach.  

I just love how people feel so okay with telling YOU all the problems you will probably have after surgery and that THEY dont want you having it.

My body...my choice. You can tell me this won't work, you can tell me what you think that I am thinking, but this is still my personal decision.

I am still sooo aggrivated that anyone told her.  My other aunts are easier to deal with because they can at least comprehend some things, but this aunt its like because of her mental issues I cannot be like Listen BIOTCH ! SHUSH!

4 ...more...days... *sigh*

 I think we can all understand. I have one brother that is a HUGE drinker and while drunk wants to call me and tell me all the things I am doing wrong!!!! I eventually changed my number and only gave it to a few peeps with the instructions to not give it to anyone!!! Im sorry you are going through this. But you know whats best for you, no one else! Stay strong sister and you will be on the other side of things very soon! 

Blessed Be

I am glad others can relate, and really i just needed to go AHHHH and vent lol. The pre op diet and lack of caffiene is making me crabby enough as it is hehe.  I wish I could just switch my number so she doesnt call, but my family would go against my wishes and give it to her, so reject button it is lol.

I am staying strong and focused on next wednesday and that things will go well, not on this noise.

Blessed be to you too!   :)

Interesting. I'm kind of in the same boat. I have an uncle in NJ who berates me about my weight, yet when I told my family of my decision to have the VSG, he is the same one that tells me how stupid of a decision it is/was. You're right it is easier to ignore their calls, especially when they're that far away!

Lol exactly! This same aunt once told me  "You know, a woman is not supposed to be bigger than her husband." and other equally rude comments.   Unfortunately the one that keeps calling is in my same zipcode, BUT i rarely if ever see her because of how she acts. 

People should just be happy we are choosing to do something that can turn our life and our health around.

Ah I see. Well I am 10 days post-op and this was the best decision I ever made! Hope your surgery goes well

I had (have) same problem. If you are home when she calls and have caller ID just turn off answering machine when you see it is her and turn down volumn on the phone so you don't have to listen. Thered is also a way to block calls but I don't know how to do it or how much it costs.

 ummm...I'm a very devout Christian and I'm very morbidly obese.  lol  And no God didn't make me this way, I did.  I suppose *maybe* she is thinking we are supposed to "keep our bodies as God's temple"  so therefore if we are obese it'd be seen as a sin to overeat. (yup was told that once)  and therefore wouldn't do it.  But NOPE that doesn't seem to make a difference.  (hence the reason there are christians who still smoke, it's a habit and hard to break)

Anyway, sorry about her.  It was almost reading verbatim about one of my aunts.  I very specifically said don't tell her!  I'll find out tomorrow if anyone told her or not, since it'll be the first time I've seen her since surgery.

I dont even think I would listen to the voice mails she leaves. You don't need to hear them. Surround yourself with positive people and things. Your surgery day is coming and you need to be ready emotionaly and physically. 
You are gonna do great! Cant wait to hear from you on the flip side.


Dani

Dani!  Thanks! You are right, I should go in and delete them as soon as I hear her voice on them lol. You always have great advice and I truly appreciate it! 


I CANNOT BELIEVE it's almost here!  I am so ready and SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO excited LOL


My suitcase is already packed. Washed all the clothes I am taking with and an outfit for the plane, got my cashier's check for the hospital from the bank, and am ready to roll. Still got 2 more LONG ASS days of work though. Hoping they fly by! I can't wait to report in from the flipside!