SAD "long"

Hi all,
Well a few things I would like to vent about. Well, one thing I am having trouable again with going to the bathroom. It has been nine days. It is about to drive me nuts the Dr's give me all kind of things to take. I called the surgeon's office, they told me to get to the ER so I did. Well I called my husband to take me to the ER. When he can I was thinking that I would wait another day. He got all upset because I wanted to wait, because the Dr.s office said for me to come. I know how much he hates to drive, that is why I wanted to wait, nothing do him we went. After we got in to see the nurse, he acted like a smarty. Yea, we were down here last week with the same problem. He was taking over me and the Dr said you are saying one thing and he is saying another. I got so mad at my husband I could of screamed, I started to tell him to get out of the room. He was really mad because he drove that far to take me to the Dr. Well the dr at the ER just gave me more junk to drink and sent me home. My husband told me well I was afraid this would happen, the people that I heard of having problems like this. I told him I had these problems before surgery, only I could eat a lot of junk food and that would make me go, I can't do that anymore THANK GOD!
Ok, my daughter came in from MI today, my husband's brother is at the house also. But what really hurt me is my husband told me they were going out to eat, he never ask if I wanted to go, what am I a 2 head monster. This a place that we all went as a family, talked just enjoyed our selfs. Ok I would of not been able to eat a lot but if nothing else, I could of just sipped on water and enjoyed myself as a family. I am really red with anger. I didn't say anything to my daughter because she would never do anything to hurt me, It would just hurt her feelings. Ok, this is my choise and I am so very happy with my sleeve, because I was out of control with eating.

When we went to my daughter's on mother's day in Ga.   I had really been sick, but was feeling better. She would take no for an answer, so I went and I had some refried beans, but had a wonderful time.

I guess I am very hurt, and I do feel like I am a 2 headed monster, like don't fit in any more.

God Bless you All.
Evie

I'm sorry, Evie you are going through this. Not to make excuses for your husband, but this is a new adjustment period for him too. Dealing with all the changes that you are having to go through. That being said, he surely could have handled things differently. I know sometimes men want to help us and don't know WHAT to do, and things come across wrong to us. Instead of communicating to you, he probably just assumed you would not want to go to a restaurant with them, since you can't eat much.
I know my husband does not get any awards in the communications department!!

As far as the constipation, I hope you get some relief really soon!

Aw, please don't be sad or upset,he probably didn't mean any harm by his actions. maybe he figured you wouldn't enjoy yourself much since you can't eat too much anymore. But I think you are going to tell him how you felt about not being invited , right?

There are these pills the doctor told me to take.  They are called "peri-colace"  They are sold over the counter....used to be only by prescription.  The pills are a little pricey ($18 at CVS)

They work WONDERS!!!!  You take 2 to 4 before bed and in the morning, the meds work the next day.  I found that taking 3 is my magic number.  They have a stimulant and softener in them.   Much better than a trip to the ER.
Good Luck

Oh Evie hon big hugs to you! Remember hon that after surgery your emotions are gonna go crazy on you. You certainly are not a monster of any kind. I would bet they just figured you wouldn't want to sit there and watch them all eat and were trying to make it easier on you. This is all new for them, too. It would be nice if they did include you, if I were you I would have just grabbed my purse and hopped inm the car with them. Be open and honest with them so they and you know what to expect. This is a new way of life for all of you and it will take time and trials. you know we all love and support you!!

I take two Fiber Choice gummies every night before bed.  I may not go every day but I definitely go every two days.  They taste yummy.  You might have a bigger problem once now, but once you figured out a solution, Fiber Choice gummies might be a viable solution for everyday use.