Marriage issues after wls?
I would say to remember that this is unchartered territory for your man too. He really doesnt have a clue what to do with your new mentality, your new determination etc. Remember you were a different person before, perhaps you were that same person when he met and married you and now you are changing. Perhaps he is a bit lost with the new you and while he is liking it and happy about it maybe he doesn't know where he fits in with it. When I look back to when I was thinner, my husband and I used to have "date night" every week, even if it was a fishing trip. I would pack a surprise picnic basket with champagne and strawberries, pate' and crackers, stemware and china and we would set the poles on the deck of the boat and dissappear in the cabin .....! I quit going when I gained weight. Once a month we would have a weekend getaway we called a "Kiddnapping" one of us would make the plans and make a game out of it so the other person would have to try and guess where we were going and what we would be doing. Sometimes it would be a simple day at the zoo in a nearby city and other times it would be an elaborate weekend away. It was lots of fun and it really kept us close. When I gained weight I didn't want to do those things anymore. I'm sure it made my husband feel like I didn't care about him. You have to do things to keep YOUR intrest up as well as create a stimulating world for both of you. It helps to get out and about and not settle into complacency. If you can get him into participating it won't be long before he will be making the plans. Start planning your first kiddnapping on the QT, see if he doesn't enjoy it!
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