A man said thanks for taking the time to talk to me

 This has bothered me for days now. I took my grandson to a pizza shop he wanted a slice. They had to make a small pizza the man told me so he could sell us 2 slices. I said OK i will sit here and wait.

He went in back made the pizza than came out and started to talk about the gas prices and weather. I talked away with him. He than told me he has a boat and if i would like to come back he could show me some pictures. I told him I did not live around his area I was 45 minutes away. The only reason for me to come there was to pick up my grandson for the summer.

He said oh OK than got us the slices and as I was leaving he said I want to thank you for speaking to me. I asked him why he would say that he than told me because your so beautiful that beautiful thin  people do not speak to others. They just seem stuck up because they are a beautiful person.

I looked at him and said it was my pleasure to talk to him. He than said again well thanks for talking with me and your just so pretty. First off I do not find my self pretty second I felt so bad for him when he said beautiful people do not talk with others. I do not feel i am thin and wonder why some thin beautiful people do not talk to others if they are not like them. But I can say i know how he feels before when i was 300 lbs people just looked at me they did not talk. Now people smile at me and talk to me all the time. I had to loose weight for others to talk to me that is just wrong. 

 I know that feeling! People will start up a conversation with me now where 6 or 8 months ago I felt invisible. I make it a point to hold the elevator, smile, and start conversations with people still struggling with weight. They are on their own personal journey and are not invisible to me!

I've acutally been trying to figure this out for a few months.  There is definitely a difference in the way people treat me now.  They look me in the eye, make an effort to say "Hello", or just smile as they pass by.  Here's my question... Are people treating us differently because we are losing weight... or are we encouraging this new behavior because we are more confident in ourselves?  I definitely walk a little taller these days.   I used to barely notice people as I passed them (I guess because I didn't want them to notice me).   Now, I hold my head up when I walk around and I just feel better about being in social situations.  So... is it them or is it us?  Either way... it's great!!!!

I am experiencing this also.  In a way it is a boost to my confidience but also its insulting to the person I used to be.  Being overweight is the last acceptable prejudice.  Sad.

 I have been telling my self to look up when I walk that i am not so big now that i cant look up. I did look down all the time while walking never looked at people much. But than people never just said hello to me or just started to talk to me. 

i know I have more confident in my self and my girlfriend told me the other day she can see that in me. I do not like others talk to me like dirt anymore which is sad as an over weight person I let people talk down to me. As the weight came off I do not allow people to talk down to me. 

I might be encouraging people to talk to me. But I never speak first i do smile alot now even my kids tell me that. I love life now and wish everyone would feel how I feel.

I think it is a little more them than us.  And I say that because I am still "obese", but I am feeling much more confident than I ever have.  So, yes, some of it is becuase I have the guts to talk to people, but there are still some people that avoid looking me in the eye--it is mainly good looking guys.  The attitude irritates me because I feel that they think they are so hot that if they look a fat girl in the eye, it is giving her the invite that, "Yea, I'm interested."  So, instead, they just don't look her in the eye.  It is ridiculous, and it is part of the reason that I regained the weight I lost in the past.  I couldn't handle the attention.  Thankfully, I am older now and hope that it won't be such an issue.  But, some of it is us--I used to walk around with my head down all of the time, now I don't.
Jenn

I havnt really gotten to that thin point, but Im curious to see how differently people treat you.. must feel good!!