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Well you sure do come up with some different things hon!
I too don't remember anything in the Bible about cousins not marrying tho I admit it's been awhile since I read all the way thru. I do know the Bible says hate the sin not the sinner, so even if someone looked at it as a sin they shouldn't hate or down the kids.
If I were you I'd sit them both down and tell them the situation because if they are old enough to get involved they are old enough to hear the truth and handle a grown up situation. Who knows once they know they might go ick and decide against it anyway. I wouldn't care what anyone else thought it's none of their business! Deal with the 2 younguns and like someone else said be sure they know all the things that can be an issue, like how do they deal with it if the relationship ends. which I'd bet money on anyway, and how that will affect not just them but the whole family. I'm thinking the young man is just wanting to be part of the family more than being with the daughter. I'd also suggest they take a good long time before making it permanent and not to do anything in haste. However in the long run it still boils down to give them the info and continue to love them both!
I too don't remember anything in the Bible about cousins not marrying tho I admit it's been awhile since I read all the way thru. I do know the Bible says hate the sin not the sinner, so even if someone looked at it as a sin they shouldn't hate or down the kids. If I were you I'd sit them both down and tell them the situation because if they are old enough to get involved they are old enough to hear the truth and handle a grown up situation. Who knows once they know they might go ick and decide against it anyway. I wouldn't care what anyone else thought it's none of their business! Deal with the 2 younguns and like someone else said be sure they know all the things that can be an issue, like how do they deal with it if the relationship ends. which I'd bet money on anyway, and how that will affect not just them but the whole family. I'm thinking the young man is just wanting to be part of the family more than being with the daughter. I'd also suggest they take a good long time before making it permanent and not to do anything in haste. However in the long run it still boils down to give them the info and continue to love them both!
someone very close to me in my family is married to their first cousin...at first I thought it was very gross...but then after research found that "in the old days" (like Civil War) this was VERY common to keep blood lines "pure." So, it happened. Thankfully the person in my family had no children with her cousin...that would be my one concern...otherwise ehhhh...if it makes them happy.
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Sorry, I am no help on the bible thing; don't believe in it.
But, if you do (and for those of you that do and seem to follow it) -- the bible completely supports it --- 100%. Bible thumpers should know these things!
Bible --- First Cousin Marriage
State laws, however, do vary: First Cousins Marriage by State
If they wanted to get married in West Virginia, no can do.
As for deformities, that is all pretty much a bunch of hogwash. If one is carrying a recessive gene for an abnormality, yes there is a chance with any birth defect / deformity, etc. If both carry it. then there is additional risk. Cousins or not, the risk is there. For instance, blacks carry a higher risk for sickle cell anemia, jews carry a higher risk for other things. It doesn't happen because of "inbreeding", it happens because there wasn't a lot of breeding outside of their community for thousands of generations.
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Personally, I don't see the big deal. The bigger deal you make it, the closer it is going to bond them together though.
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Just my 2 cents, as a NICU nurse....yes, the children COULD have genetic issues....meaning, retardation or developmental issues.
There are reasons why these laws were put on the books. People from the same gene pool have much higher odds of having children with potential physical deformities (major or minor), developmental problems or syndromes.
I have seen this on more than one occasion in my unit. I'm not saying it happens EVERY time, but it CAN happen.
I am now stepping off my soap box.
Different scenerios are more or less acceptable in different areas of the country for different reasons.
Two consenting adults can do what they will, as long as they are willing to accept the consequences.....such as others not approving. A child resulting from such a relationship does not have a choice.
Ok, I am done! :-)
There are reasons why these laws were put on the books. People from the same gene pool have much higher odds of having children with potential physical deformities (major or minor), developmental problems or syndromes.
I have seen this on more than one occasion in my unit. I'm not saying it happens EVERY time, but it CAN happen.
I am now stepping off my soap box.
Different scenerios are more or less acceptable in different areas of the country for different reasons.
Two consenting adults can do what they will, as long as they are willing to accept the consequences.....such as others not approving. A child resulting from such a relationship does not have a choice.
Ok, I am done! :-)
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Do you happen to have any links to literature about frequency and types of occurrences regarding these issues?
If you don't have anything quickly and easily available, don't worry about it. I can look it up through my school library databases. But if you have something you can link on the fly, I'd love to have a starting point.
If you don't have anything quickly and easily available, don't worry about it. I can look it up through my school library databases. But if you have something you can link on the fly, I'd love to have a starting point.
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