when will i look different?

i see myself, almost 2 months out. ive lost 50lbs and can tell a difference already. but im still the "fat girl". i see pics of girls 9-10 months out who have already hit goal or at least have lost 100 pounds and look "skinny" now. 7-8  months from now & being skinny seems so soon. will it happen to me to? i fear that i will still be where i am now 8 months from now. i know thats not realistic. but its just a fear. i worry that i wont be that girl at 10 months out who's lost 100lbs. but then ive already lost 50 at less than 2 months out. i do have another 125 at least to lose. when can i expect to look like a skinny girl instead of a fat girl? i know noone, not even my doctor, can tell me when ill get to goal. but i wish i knew! also, my mom cooked dinner tonight. chicken and dumplings. i ate some chicken, broth, and a couple noodles. about 10 minutes after eating, i all of a sudden felt sick and threw up. idk if it was the chicken or the noodles that made me sick. this is the 5th time ive thrown up in the last 3 weeks! i never know when its gonna happen either! at least i do feel a lot better after i throw up. anyways, hope everyone has a good night :-)

I am less than 180 pounds and people are just now noticing my weight loss.

My theory is that non-obese people don't notice until we are closer to normal weight.

I think its pretty common for us to each feel or wonder if, " I will be the only one the sleeve won't work for".   the answer is a resounding NO.  It will work for you if you let it.  That means turning your back to the voice inside you that will scream in your head that JUST ONE won't hurt you, or that  you have worked hard so you deserve that cookie etc.  It means working that sleeve to its fullest capabilities.  Then one day you look in the mirror and don't recognise that thinner person at first glance, or you lay down to sleep and scratch your tummy and feel hipbones or someone snaps a picture and you realize the person with the dress like the one you bought is indeed YOU!  It just kind of sneaks up on you before you know it.  It does happen and when it does its SWEET!  Stay away from those noodles, carbs cause hunger cravings.  Taste the broth and eat the chicken but treat the dumplings like they are big old clumps of greasy fat.   You can do this!

youre right i think everyone has that  fear. i just need to learn how to tell myself its an unrealistic fear

 My advice is to toss out this idea of "goal" weights.
Ask yourself this: Are you HEALTHIER than you were 50 pounds ago? No matter where you end up, you need to focus on how far you've come. The little victories. It gets easy to become obsessed and caught up on trying to reach these unrealisitic goals. Here I am down 130 and I still freak out about wanting to be at that magic number sometimes but then I see people at the gym where I used to be and remember how much I would have KILLED to be this healthy before.
Did we get morbily obese in 8 months? 10 months? 1 year? No, so in my opinion anything under is a blessing. Always remember where you started and what you've achieved! Having this surgery alone is a grand achievement and to that I say Bravo! But keep in mind your body is still healing, adjusting and getting used to this new way of life! All the best!

youre absolutely right. my cup is half emplty instead of half full. i need to look at like as ive already lost 50lbs instead of i need to lose another 100. its just hard to change your ways of thinking! thanks for your advice

 You are doing great and from your pics I see the difference already also.  I don't know when it will chane from being the fat girl honestly.  I have pics of when I was a size 8-10 and at that point of time I thought I was fat.  I look back at them and say omg I was skinny so I don't know if when I finally get more of this weight off, will that perception chnage, I hope so.  I see zero difference in myself right now losing 48 lbs. so far.  I still wear the same clothes and I feel they still fit the same.  I took pictures on my surgery day and 1 month, I see no difference.  My husband says he sees a difference but I don't know if he just saying that lol.  Keep working your sleeve like you are and before you know it time will of flown by and you will be that "skinny" girl.  BTW I like the ticker you have, much more info than the OH. I had to get me 1 lol  Kerry 

thanks so much, that makes me feel better. its hard to change the way i view myself. ive always been big so no matter how small i get, i still think im the biggest person in the room! youre doing great too! and i like your ticker copy cat :-P JK. keep up the good work :-)

Here is my perspective for what it is worth.  When I get to goal is just an extension of not being able to control what I weigh.  If we do our part, we will get there.  But our bodies are team members in this, and we don't control their timing.  I tell myself to trust the process, suit up and show up, follow my food plan today and let tomorrow take care of itself.  This doesn't mean I don't wonder or calculate or think about when I get to "goal", or what I want to weigh by Christmas, but it's what I tell myself to calm down that squirrel cage thinking. 

For example, sometimes I think "I'll be 53 before I lose this weight."  Then I have to say, "well, you'll be 53 anyway, at least you'll be healthier."  And "I'm following my food plan, so let it go.  My body knows better than I do how best to lose this weight."

The next part of this is that I have lost 120 pounds before, and for me, it was a big adjustment and not all easy peasy.  I have been fat my entire life (with a few exceptions) and being that fat person is without a doubt one of the biggest parts of my self identity.  My therapist at the time told me it takes 2 years to change your body image, and really being present for each stage of my transformation was important - not just going into a kind of suspended animation until the weight was gone.  I still struggle with this - we all want it off *right now* - but I think it's important for me to really be present in the middle, so I can process all the changes that are going on with my body.

yes, i do need to change the way i think. i think its realistic to set goals. but i should also not let those goals control my thoughts all day every day lol. i need to trust the process! thankyou :-)