when will i look different?

My weight loss wasnt as dramati****il I had lost about 70lbs, then it really started to be noticeable..

Yes I was smaller at -40,-50,-60 but I was still chubby-looking.

Dont worry about things like this, its a time-waster. You are going to lose alot more weight, probably without too much effort. So just sit back, relax, and enjoy seeing your scale go down.

and remember, -50lbs is going to look more dramatic a loss on someone who only had 100lbs to lose vs. someone who loses 50 and still has another 125 to lose. its a smaller ratio of loss for the heavier person

true! i didnt think about it that way. i had almost 200lbs to lose. so now that ive lost 50 of it, yes i look smaller. but ill start to get that "wow! shes lost a lot of weight" comments/looks in another 50lbs just because i had so much to lose. thanks for your insight :-)

I can relate to how you're feeling. You are doing great though!! 50 lbs. in two months is awesome!

It's hard not to get trapped in comparing and losing patience when we've got so much to lose, be careful not to spend too much time dwelling on that. Just tell yourself that you will get there when you get there. And with each step you are healthier!

In the past when I've lost weight, the 180 mark is usually when it's super obvious that I've lost weight andI look more 'normal' size.

Right now, I try on old clothes to see the loss, because I really don't 'see' it yet and others don't seem to notice either. I just saw an old friend who I hadn't seen in a year, she doesn't know I had surger and she didn't say anything, but hey we went for a great walk and had a wonderful chat, so I choose to focus on that. I'm still wearing some of the t-shirts and sweaters I did before surgery (although they are much looser, but I can still get away with it). So, I just have to be patient and not let it get to me - that is not going to help me stay motivated. :)

thats strange. cause im also still wearing some of the same clothes. the pants are obviously way too big on me cause i seem to be losing more from my bottom half first. but i put on the shirts i wore before surgery and they fit nice and im thinking GEEZ! how TIGHT and uncomfy were these shirts on me 50pounds ago? did i really not notice? or have i just not lost that much weight to make a difference? i have 0 patience. one of my worst qualities lol. i need to work on that. thanks so much :)

First of all...5th time vomiting in 3 weeks?! That does not sound good, my dear! I would definitely stay away from anything noodley or dumplingy, but what were the specifics of the other times?

I have never vomited with my sleeve (I did sort of spit up some saliva twice, I guess thats the "foamies" perhaps?). and I'm about 10.5 months out.

I am not sure if my experience of not vomiting or your experience of frequent vomiting is more common with the sleeve. Are you measuring? If not, I would start measuring again and maybe even undereat the measurement by a couple of bites for a week or two. Or maybe it was the mixture of consistencies...the chicken with the broth and noodles? I'm not sure.

Anyway, try to switch something up to resolve the vomiting. Your stomach is still healing and that is just unneccessary stress on it.

Ok, now moving on...the weight loss phase is such a mental game it is unreal. You are doing the right thing by taking pictures. 50 lbs already? Wow!

I have similar thoughts as I have been losing regarding passing the threshold from fat to thin. There have been different phases. At first I was just moving from REALLY FAT to FAT then from FAT to Not Quite as Fat. Then from Not Quite as Fat to Chubby. I feel like if I can lose maybe 20-30 more lbs I will move from Chubby to quite possibly, normal sized or slender.

I don't know when I can expect to look like a skinny girl instead of a fat girl, so I can't even begin to give you a timeline, but just keep working the course and it should eventually occur.

I still feel fat when I look in the mirror most days. Some days I can't tell that I have lost weight until I see the pictures. Even though I have so many NSVs (plane seats are comfy now! shopping is fun now! I'm not scared to weigh in at the doctor's office anymore now! etc. etc.), the mind game is still so present. The other day I was at Pier 1 and was scared to sit on the papasan furniture because I thought I would break it. Crazy stuff like that.

I heard someone suggest once to cut the faces or heads out of the pictures you take. The idea is that your self-perception is so ingrained that you can't ever really view yourself objectively. So, cut the face off and maybe you'll be able to see what others see. I haven't tried it, but it sounds like a good idea (even better if someone could blindfold and dress me so I don't recognize my clothes either! lol).

Anyway, I must be channeling Brandilynn with my wordiness lately, but all it really boils down to is...I share your struggle even 8+ months ahead of you. But let's just keep plugging away and see what happens. :)

Best,
Lindsey

hi lindsey! thanks for your input. the other times i threw up were all unrelated too. i never know when its gonna happen. i was eating just plain chicken dipped in some ketchup one time. second time organic chicken nuggets lightly breaded. ive been tryin to figure it out. who knows. ill tell my doctor about it next time i see him, or sooner if it gets worse. you completely understand what im tryin to say! i was holy cow fat! now im just huge. my next step will be big, then chubby, then normal but at how much loss and how far out do these occur? im sure its different for everyone. and its a mental guessing game. this whole weight loss process plays such tricks on your mind! i laughed when you said you thought you were gonna break that furniture lol thats how i imagine myself, as still feeling like the same old fat girl even after ive lost 200lbs. ill have to try the cuttin out the face thing one day. maybe after more weight loss. ill keep up the good work and you do the same! thanks so much :-)

I feel ya sister.. I am about 10 weeks out and have lost 40lbs.. everyone keeps telling me they see the difference and that my clothes are to big and that I am getting skinny.. I said not yet.. but I am working on it..  I still have on the fat goggles.. and I know I will struggle with that for a while.. I am also taking it slow and easy.. I have slacked these past few weeks on not measuring foods but after reading some of the other comments.. I am going back to that. and when the sweet tooth hits I hit the SF popsicles.. tropical flavors.. those are my faves..

keep taking pictures as well.. I took some not to long ago and posted one from before surgery and the one I took recently.. and I can see the difference in my face.. you can see my eyes.. LOL.. before the fat cheeks just squinted them right up and made them invisible.. ROFL.. I am so happy I had this surgery and so glad I can work my sleeve to my benefit.. a healthier me..

I am so glad I have my OH family here.  They have been the best support..

fat goggles LOL thats cute. i definitely have mine on. itll take me a LOOONG time to take mine off, probably cause ive been big my whole life. you're doing great. i should definitely start measuring out my food too. maybe my problem is not knowing when im full, eating too much, then throwing up. not sure, but its a process and i gotta get used to it. im also thankful for the advice and support my OH family gives me. thats funny that you can see your eyes now. yay! ill have to check your pics out. keep up the good work and thanks so much for replying! :)

I started out the surgery short and round.

People didn't really start noticing my weightloss until about month 5, when I had started wearing clothes that fit me better :)  Now, at almost 90 pounds down, I am getting lots of nice comments from people :)  I am still short, but definitely not round.

I recently took a look at the preop pictures of myself, and was really surprised at how noticable my loss was.

lol im not short, but im round. the little girl i babysit asks me all the time why im not "flat" like her mommy. HAHA. i told her cause i was sick and that one day soon ill no longer be round. so now like once a week she says "when are you gonna be flat? you're still round" lol poor kids they dont understand things they say, it dont bother me. kinda cute. yea its hard to see the progress we've made. we dont realize it until we see before pictures. so im gonna keep taking them every month so i can see my progress and use it as motivation. thanks so much :)