First family function tonight- tips on dealing with the family?
Tonight is the first family get together, and unfortunately my husband took it upon himself to tell my mother in law about the surgery. Which pretty much means everybody will know before I get to the shindig tonight. Any tips on dealing with the family members? I am ok with not eating around them- just not terribly tolerant of them getting all in my business!
Surgeon: Chengelis Surgery on 12/19/2011 A little less carb eating compared to my weight loss phase loose sleever here!
1Mo: -21 2Mo: -16 3Mo: -12 4MO - 13 5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6 Goal in 8 months 4 days!! 6' 2'' EWL 103% Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) now size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5 150+ pounds lost
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Surgeon: Chengelis Surgery on 12/19/2011 A little less carb eating compared to my weight loss phase loose sleever here!
1Mo: -21 2Mo: -16 3Mo: -12 4MO - 13 5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6 Goal in 8 months 4 days!! 6' 2'' EWL 103% Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) now size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5 150+ pounds lost
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Don't have any advice really either. I have my first one with all my inlaws tomorrow afternoon. They are BIG eaters.. every function involves pot luck and tons of it. I plan on only taking a small plate and having a small bit of turkey, and maybe some mashed taters.. I really want turnip but think it may not be wise as it could make me feel bloated and gassy.
I dont want to stand out not eating so I will be busy playing with the kids and just chatting and sipping on a tea that I will bring of my own cuz I'm sure there is nothing caffeine free there.
Just mingle and have fun. If you don't want to discuss it and someone brings it up.. nip it in the bud with a polite but firm answer that will let them know you aren't welcoming any outside opinions LOL
"Thank you all for your concern regarding my health and weight but before I made this life changing decision for me and my husband I did my research and we both knew what our journey would be like - So far I have lost XXX pounds and gained XXX
If you would like some further detail about the surgery I can point you to some very helpful websites"
That way you shut them up and they see that 1. you aren't going to talk about it all night 2. it's only your business and your husbands and 3. for those of you have issues with it - stuff it you big ol'turkey b/c I know everything I got myself into"
If that doesn't work just smile when they ask you a question and tell them merry christmas....
of course I realize this little exercise may not work for all :) but if you have a plan in place when it comes to your own situation you can wing it in a way to fit you!!
Good luck happyteacher and if it comes down to it - teach them about the VSG
If they insist, just walk away.
Be positive. Be happy. I don't think you need to make a big deal or statement about it. Just go with it.
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Surgeon: Chengelis Surgery on 12/19/2011 A little less carb eating compared to my weight loss phase loose sleever here!
1Mo: -21 2Mo: -16 3Mo: -12 4MO - 13 5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6 Goal in 8 months 4 days!! 6' 2'' EWL 103% Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) now size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5 150+ pounds lost
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However, if I ever got the snide comment.. best way to handle imo, dead stare and ask in a loud enough voice that others in the room can easily hear you: "How did ME having WLS effect YOU, to the point that you could ever think that kind of comment is appropriate or helpful?" Stare. Keep staring until they say something, or get so uncomfortable that everyone is looking at them.. and walk away.
