Is it ok for me to say...

I'm not trying to call anyone out, as I stated this isn't directed to anyone even on this forum.

I have waited soo long to have surgery, waited forever to have a fighting chance in this battle with my weight and to watch someone get that chance and not give it everything they have baffles me.

We get a fair few of these posts from people who haven't had surgery and then they have it and realize that having 85% of your stomach yanked out and eating thousands less calories still doesn't guarantee that you can have a little....name your poison...from time to time.  it's a lesson not learned immediately because you can listen to everyone tell you 800 cals 30-40 carbs but it's counter-intuitive because you're eating so much less until you see a 2lb gain from a couple of cookies. Then you get it.  Why oh why is the weight just not falling off you, surely you are about to die from malnutrition (well maybe not malnutrition but everyone says you eat like a bird.  doesn't a Bird deserve some ice cream from time to time.  After all you gave up your 6 course meals.  is there to be no solace to be had from food.  have a heart) From my perspective a little *****ing and moaning and whining is allowed after major surgery when you realize people just weren't trying to frighten you when they told you it would be the strictest diet you'd ever be on and still at times watch the ******g scale not move.  if dieting were easy none of us would be here. 

I definitely struggle with my fluids every day and I know it contributes to my lack of weightloss but I'm still trying every day. I also stopped exercising in the last few weeks because of things that have been going on in my life and sometimes it's hard to even get up in the morning. You'd probably call me one of "those people" but I do feel that until you have surgery and understand certain things about it and the journey (it IS different than regular dieting) then you really shouldn't speak on that. If those posts are annoying, don't read them but you may learn some coping strategies ffrom the responses to them because it seems like you think this is going to be easy and for many of us it's a struggle.

I don't think that this is going to be easy, I know that it's going to be a struggle. I know since I am starting at such a high weight also I am probably going to struggle more than most just to get down to a healthy weight.

The truth is no matter how prepared you are, you won't understand the struggles until you actually have the surgery.  Try to be a little more compassionate because you'll see plenty of these posts.  Good luck with your surgery! 

How much have you lost?  and how long have you been working at it? 

To have surgery? Since '09 I lost 68 pounds in my medical supervised diet and then I had a back injury that stopped me from my workouts out dead in my tracks...and slowly I fell into my old ways, I picked up self back up in '11 and I tried again but Insurance would cover the surgery and I fell into the biggest depression ever...
Here we are '12 and I am finally doing it, I have approval and I changed my eating habits again and started working out in the first 2 weeks I lost 11 pounds for the last almost month I have not weighed in and I am waiting till I meet with the surgeon on the 18th to finally step on the scale again.

Everyone says "you don't have surgery on your brain." You slowly fell back into your own ways before, you've dealt with depression, so just because your stomach gets cut out doesn't mean you wont deal with the same issues again.

My depression was more because I felt like I did everything I could, everything I was suppose to and still it wasn't enough, I was depressed cause I know I had given it everything. That's all I was trying to say, trying to ask why do some people not try and give it everything...

And only reffering to the people who already know they aren't giving it a chance and still wondering why, Not anyone who is trying and still struggling