Loose skin rant and take me for what I am, buster :)
I'm voting for you to DTMFA! I agree with the other posts...if he can't accept you as you are, that's unacceptable! You've worked too hard to let someone make you feel like you're still not good enough. And regardless of how good he is, if you are bugged enough by his comments to get the opinions of others, you already know what to do.
Although easier said than done, I say DTMFA.
What if you were missing a limb and that bugged him? Some things can never be undone.
He has communicated clearly to you that your skin and previous weight bother him, and bother him a LOT. The fact that you have been together only 3 months and he has already indicated his that he is very disturbed makes me concerned for you. The first 3 months is usually a honeymoon period of sorts where even a person's worst flaws totally fade in the background.
You may be able to excise the loose skin, but you cannot delete your history of obesity. To me, that means he may care about you, but that you have what he considers to be a serious deficiency. This isn't a very good foundation to build a relationship on. He hasn't said anything mean now, but as you continue in a relationship and experience normal arguments, etc., I'm pretty certain that it will come out.
Please don't settle for someone who sees you as damaged. Also, while I know I may sound harsh, remember that I am not in love with him. Also, I am on the downhill slide to being 60. If there was a guy anywhere who had issues, I searched him out and either dated or married him, so I have a LOT of experience in the "sadder but wiser" arena.
Hugs and good luck to you!
What if you were missing a limb and that bugged him? Some things can never be undone.
He has communicated clearly to you that your skin and previous weight bother him, and bother him a LOT. The fact that you have been together only 3 months and he has already indicated his that he is very disturbed makes me concerned for you. The first 3 months is usually a honeymoon period of sorts where even a person's worst flaws totally fade in the background.
You may be able to excise the loose skin, but you cannot delete your history of obesity. To me, that means he may care about you, but that you have what he considers to be a serious deficiency. This isn't a very good foundation to build a relationship on. He hasn't said anything mean now, but as you continue in a relationship and experience normal arguments, etc., I'm pretty certain that it will come out.
Please don't settle for someone who sees you as damaged. Also, while I know I may sound harsh, remember that I am not in love with him. Also, I am on the downhill slide to being 60. If there was a guy anywhere who had issues, I searched him out and either dated or married him, so I have a LOT of experience in the "sadder but wiser" arena.
Hugs and good luck to you!
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Unless my cats are there to welcome me.
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