What would you do?

 Ok, so I had my LAST consult with my surgeon before surgery.  There was good news and bad news.
Good news
He has NEVER had a leak, or any complications with the sleeve. I could tell he knew what he was doing. He seemed super confident and told me that these surgeries are easy for him. He answered all of my questions and I feel really great about having surgery with him. He also told me that I am probably going to be one of his "easy" patients because I have no co-morbitiies and because I've had laproscopic surgery before with no complications my risk of any problems is very low. 

Other good news. I lost 4 pounds!! They were proud of me! They said that shows I'm taking it seriously and the more weight I lose before surgery the better! 

Bad news

He said he wants me to wait 18 months to try and get pregnant. The other surgeon told me a year. He said he's not comfortable with that and he wants me to wait an additional six months because then I should be at maintenance and it's safer. That blows, but I guess I'll deal with it and obviously I wouldn't want to do something unsafe.

Really really bad sucky news. 
I don't think my surgery will be in August. This is NOT good. They have to wait until I finish my July workshop to submit all of my stuff to insurance and then they schedule 5 weeks out after approval. This blows! The probably is that I'm a stay at home mom and during the summer I have LOTS of help. My hubby is a teacher and is off from school, and my sister is also a teacher and off from school. In september my hubby really can't take time off. He coaches football too so I NEVER see him. I don't know what I should do. I really don't want to postpone it either. My mom can probably take days off while I actually have surgery but nobody else can.

So should I just take the first available date or what? I have no idea. I seriously feel like a dork because I cried over this. I don't know really how I'm going to feel but I know after gallbladder surgery I felt bad with the gas pain for awhile. I just don't know if I can take care of my son and do everything I need to right away. PS I'm really also mad at my hubby. It's not really his fault but I kind of feel like he's choosing work over me. I know that's probably mean of me, but this is stressing me out. I just feel like this is something I'm doing for myself for once and it would be nice if he could be there for me. Anyway, sorry to blab. 

Hey everyone needs to vent and this is the best place to do that.  First, congrats on all your good news.  Focus on that.

If it were me, I would have a serious conversation with my husband, mom, and any friends, family who may be able to help you out.  Tell them this IS GOING TO HAPPEN and you WILL NEED HELP.  PERIOD.  Ask them what they feel they can commit to in terms of time.  You will not need round the clock care, but you will need help with your child if he/she is of the age they still want to be picked up.  You will not be able to lift anything.  Yes, this is where your husband needs to pitch in and if it means he may have to take time from work, so be it.  It is a one-time deal and only for a few days, possibly a week.  This is what spouses do for each other and their kids.

Once you are approved and know your date, you can plan with people a little better.  If your husband is on board with you having the surgery, he has to be on board with your recovery as well.

Stress is not your friend, before or after surgery.  Sit him down abd talk to him,  You will feel so much better.  Good luck to you!!!!

I really can't comment on the work schedule situation, time off for surgery for additional help etc etc because you could need very little help post-op. Recovery is extremely individualized and some rebound super fast, others take more time. I feel the same with my husband sometimes that he chooses "work" unfortunately, the Air Force doesn't really give 2 poops what's going on at home and considering his career solely provides for our family, I try to put it into perspective. Luckily, I have an amazing support system here with tons of friends to help with stuff.

As for the pregnancy, I realize that the 18 months post-op seems a little extreme(I think 18 months is absurd personally), and my surgeon releases patients based on individual progres****ting goal, ability to consume enough nutrient dense food to support our bodies and a developing baby lab results etc etc.. I was released at 8 months post-op, on the pregnancy after WLS forum here, there are a couple of other VSG'ers who were also released earlier and we ALL delivered full term, healthy babies. Grant it, we were battling some fertility issues and I didn't successfully conceive until I was 19 months post-op, but I was released earlier as are many others. I'm not saying your surgeon is "wrong" or "absurd", I realize why that recommendation is in place. It's logical, get to goal, figure out maintenance, let your body settle yada yada, but there's so many other factors that can play in this decision. Age was against me, I delivered Tatum last October and now Nugget is due just 2 weeks before her first birthday.

I hope all the timing gets worked out.

One thing u should see is if they will hold a surgery date for u til approval (my office did that but then i needed to change it cuz i couldnt get off work ) like if they will submit july 31st say see if they will pencil u in for mid august or when u can to give enough time for insurance to approve and get u date

I would ask them to note my chart that if a cancellation comes up to call you.If you explain some doctors will try to get you on their schedules earlier but trying to get a scheduler to get you in earlier seems impossible.I would make sure all my pre-op test are done as soon as possible just in case.I did not take long till I was up and taking care of my children and going out but it took a while till I could push a cart and vacuum.I think if your mom comes and you prepare ( I precooked meat sauce for pasta and froze it along with buying easy to prepare stuff like Chef Boyardee) It was hard for my son to stay off my lap but I just kept reminding him.

 Thanks for your replies!! Well, I think I'm going to see if I can get them to pencil me in earlier or put me on a list in the event of a cancellation. That might be the best thing to do. Other than that, I will probably just have the surgery at the first available time. It's not ideal, but I think it's what I need to do for myself. I know my mom and sisters will help me out even if my hubby can't. I think if I schedule it he will probably end up taking time off anyway, but I think he just wants me to wait until football season is over for him which is November (I'm not doing that!). 
Anyway, thanks for everything. Trying to keep my eyes on the prize!!