Did she really just say that?

Jealousy is a green-eyed monster. My sis in law seems to have had a problem with me the entire 10 years she and my brother have been married.  I opted not to keep her or my brother in the loop with my surgery.  I went to a baby shower for her sister this weekend and revealed that I had surgery. (There was no denying it from my size). Oh, I saw the green eyes flare, even though she is small, the green eyes were still there. If jealousy has ever been an issue in a relationship, the jealous parties just don't like to see others succeed in something. Girl, go flaunt your stuff, YOU LOOK GREAT!!!

She seems to have put on some weight as you've lost. I wouldn't take it personal. If she wants to be the new "fat friend" more power to her! :) You can be the hot friend.

I think women are catty. Maybe it's the result of working with predominantly men for 20 years but women just shock me all the time with the stuff they say. I have a ton of friends but few very close friends. I have a sister who is a therapist who is infamous for saying the most crass things. I've had to completely ignore her calls since surgery. People get wierd as you shrink.

 That comment was so much more about her than you.  It was a comment of pure jealousy and I anything, you should feel sorry for her.  She obviously has some major self worth/esteem issues.  Also, blatant jealousy displayed in that manner is an indicator that this person is not a true friend.  I speak from experience on this one.  

By the way, you look gret!  Keep up the good work!

I'm different I guess, because I would take that as a compliment. It is a sign of her insecurity, but I would still take it as a compliment. You know the nature of your friendship, but if my closest friends said that to me we would laugh. I was the heaviest among my closest friends. I had surgery, and I wasn't anymore. But doggone if my 'thinner' friend didn't go and have surgery so I'm still the biggest one..but at least I'm not big. lol

Totally a compliment lol....It is suprising the stupid things people will say without thining how it will be taken once you ar enoticeably thinner. I've had some things said to me that I'm like 'Really? Are you that stupid?' but you just have to look past it and if it is someone who cares about you, accept that they didn't mean it with ill intent. I actually have learned to laugh at those types of things now....even pick on my brother about his weight a little now. Congrats on losing so much so far!

Girl let those haters be your motivators!!!! You are beautiful and she obviously was feeling self conscious. I don't think she thought about it before she said it. Let it roll and keep on rockin your sleeve you are doing great!!! 

Don't forget that she COULD be happy for you, and at the same time feeling bad about herself because she is feeling bigger.  Happy and jealous are not mutually exclusive emotions.

Don't get me wrong, it was a ****ty comment either way.  And of course, it hurts to realize that someone once thought of you as "the fat friend."  But have you ever looked around a room to see if you are the fattest person there?  Or taken comfort to notice that there are people as big or bigger than you there too?  I did that all the time.  I wouldn't have ever said it out loud (maybe your friend lost her filter due to some alcohol? or she is just tacky in general?) but yeah, I thought things like that.

I'd just let it go since you can now bask in continuing to shrink.  Unless this friend is trying to sabotage you, always saying things to bring you down - just write it off to your friend showing her own pain.

Thank you everyone for the sweet comments!  I know she wasn't trying to be mean, but it still stung.  I'm not and never have been one of "those fat people" who make fun of themselves, so we definitely didn't have a relationship like that where we would laugh about it.  I mean, duh, I know that I was/am still overweight...but I never used it as a way to get laughs.  I just hope that she doesn't secretly resent me or anything.  She knows how I feel about people thinking I took the "easy way out", and I'm thinking she's starting to feel the same way.  I dunno, i guess it's just weird to see people change just because I'M losing weight!  At least I have you guys that understand where I'm coming from :)

Everyone is right, you gotta blow it off. There are 3 of us friends that basically grew up together. I was always the biggest even in highscholl when I wasn't fat & just athletically built. I had my surgery & was talking to the other "big" girl (after 3 kids) & she said she started a diet just because she wasn't going to be the fat one now....  wtf! yeah she did. but hey i took that & ran with it & I ask her all the time, so are you wearing your body bugg?, what did you eat today?, did you workout?, i congratulate her on her achievements & wish the best for her.

It's an eye opener when it happens but it's an opportunity to be the better you.

Well the way the picture looks to me, last year you were bigger than either one of them.  And this year it almost looks as if you are smaller than either one.  Maybe she did not mean it the way you took it.