HELP What Can I Do -- Who Can I Turn To????

Hi Kabooboo........just love your name LOL

Thanks for the advice.  For sure, I won't let anyone define me any longer. 

We have this great tool and we have to take advantage of it -- especially early on.  I know we'll do well!

Ree

KEEP ON SAILING -- support or no support, a sailbaot can be guided and staveled all alone!!!!!!    You are a strong person and deserve to be happy -- One day when things are different, they will say "huh what happened - i thought everything was fine" and you can respond - I'm sailing my boat to happiness, if you are on board great and if not oh well your loss to a great happy trip called MY new life!!!   
Good luck - YOU ARE A SAILOR!!!!!!!!!! 

WOW  You really found a great analogy -- though in my case it isn't!  It's real life LOL  The husband built a 16' catamaran years ago.  He studied "How to Sail" books and felt he knew what he was doing when he took it out on the lake near our house.  He did okay -- nothing fancy, just got the cat moving along at a decent rate.  I asked if he'd let me take it out.  He wasn't too thrilled because I didn't read those books, but he said if I would be careful, go ahead.  Well, apparently I have a built in "how to sail" gene LOL  I got that puppy up and flying across the water.  The feel for the wind just came naturally.  Scared him half stupid with some of the things I did, but I brought her to shore in pristine condition! 

So, yes, I'm definitely a sailor -- figuratively and literally!

Thanks for the upbeat comments.........they are truly appreciated

 I for sure would not be cooking for him! I'd tell him to take care of himself and I would take care of myself.

I expect similarly hurtful comments from my inlaws when I see them next. 

I'm sorry you are already apprehensive about comments from your in-laws -- that makes for so much unpleasantness.  I wish you well confronting people like that.

LOL  It's funny you said about not cooking for him!  For the first time in ages, I did NOT cook for him yesteray!  He's retired and is home all the time -- expects 3 cooked meals a day.  When he asked about where his food was, I told him to look in the refrigerator -- it's right next to the STOVE!   Didn't hear a word from him the rest of the day LOL

Good luck with your next visit with the folks -- maybe your husband can run interference for you?

Oh honey, I'm so sorry you aren't getting the support and encouragement you need and deserve from your husband and extended family. Please know that we're here and so proud of you!

((Ree))

Awww.........thanks so much Kelly-Anne.  You are so sweet and kind.  I'm dealing with this now that I see how much support I've receive since I posted about this problem.  People here are amazingly thoughtful and helpful.

This journey is new and exciting -- I won't let toxic people ruin it for me.......at least not for any long period of time! 

Dear Princess,This is such a vulnerable time, no big moves yet, get stronger and find some closeby support and enjoy your success! Praying for you.
Peg

Thank you Peg!  Yes, we are all vulnerable so early out -- probably the same further out -- right now we are learning so much about using the sleeve, dealing with other people who just don't get it.  For now, I'll bide my time, stay on plan and do the best I know how to do.  It's all any of us can do.

Ree

 As usual Allison said what needed to be said in a kind yet honest way.  I felt the same way about what your husband said.....just awful.  Hugs to you.