HELP What Can I Do -- Who Can I Turn To????

Thanks for your support.  Yes, Allison definitely has a way with words -- and whether she knows it or not, she has built-in humor that just cracks me up.

As the saying goes..........time wounds all heels! 

Humor and silver linings -- looking for them and finding them keeps me sane!

And hugs are just GRAND!  Thanks

 You know I'm a big fan of yours.  You can do this with or without his support.  You may have had. Big tushie, but that guy you're married to is a big a$$.  As we shed the weight, it's also possible to shed shame, self hatred, willingness to suffer abusive behavior etc.  you have one job to focus on and that is taking care of yourself and getting the weight off.  Get in the pool and walk yourself to health.

I went to OA for 17 years. I think it's a great organization and would recommend it highly for support.

WOW Lee.........your kindness and generous nature are so much appreciated.  Thank you. 

I had to laugh about the tuchas and his sorry old a$$..........humor is such a great tool to get through life. 

I hear you about ridding ourselves of more than the weight.  Maybe this latest bit of crap is a good thing -- making me see things more clearly early on.  I have value -- just because I'm ME!  What a special feeling that is.  AND, I didn't turn to food for comfort -- that is HUGE for me.

Thanks for the encouragement about OA.  I found a chapter one town over and will investigate joining.  With the great support I've seen from the good people on OH *****sponded and OA and staying with my plan as perfectly as I can, nothing will stop me now!

The weather forecast was for another heat wave...........you mean we had a break?  Why didn't someone tell me about that LOL  I've been sweating buckets so I didn't know about it!   That pool is in for it for the next several days!

Thank you so much Lee.........sharing troubles halves them, sharing joys doubles them. 

Ree

 Jeez, I wonder why you got fat married to such a catch?!  I would've resorted to food too!! Don't let him and you mother sabotage your goals - you have happiness ahead of you and will feel like you've been let of prison when you lose your weight.

It sucks that finances keep you in that marriage though ... 

Thanks for your support!  He actually was a decent catch back in the day.  Not handsome, but smart and clever and he did provide very well for the family.  Sometimes I think he has issues about weight because of his mother -- she's very controlling and very overweight.  But that's not my problem now.

I'm focusing on doing the best I can to stay on plan and appreciate the benefits I'm already receiving from this surgery -- improvement in my kidney disease and what looks to be total remission of Type II Diabetes.  The weight loss is a BIG bonus!

Seeing successes such as yours really helps............thanks for staying around to help us newbies.

First of all, I'd have been slappin' that husband of yours. You have taken a huge step to get this surgery and you are doing great. Those people who have negative comments are either ignorant of weight loss surgery, jealous, threatened- something... It is their issue, not yours. Just be proud of your accomplishments. In a few months, they will be in awe of you!

LOL  Thanks for the laugh!  I'm always telling other people to "slap the stupid" out of whomever is making them crazy!  But I don't follow my own advice!

I am so pleased to be making this progress -- I know it will slow down now that the first month is over, but I do hope to see the scale continue to drop some each week.

People don't like change..........unless it's for themselves and they benefit from it.  Seeing someone who rarely thought of herself because she was always doing something for others become "selfish" can't be easy.  Still, that doesn't give them the right to be nasty.  I can't change people, but I can change how I react to them.  That's what I'm striving for now.

The support I've received from those *****sponded is awesome and I'm very grateful to all of you.

Thanks so much.

Ree
 

Be proud of your weight loss and your progress so far. Do not let others bring you down. It would be ideal if your husband provided that needed support but since he doesn't know that you have this place.

Thanks you.  I am very pleased with my progress so far.  We all have to be our own cheer leaders, but it sure helps to have others rooting for us too.  I see that all I had to do was reach out and the support came quickly.  I'm grateful.

Congrats on your progress, you're really doing well!

About your hubby. If you're not prepared to leave his sorry ass, or get therapy, then don't mention your weight loss, if his replies are just going to be hurtful. Maybe that's an ostrichy head in the sand kind of thing, but, the way i see it is, if it hurts your head when you bang it against the wall, stop doing it.

He likely won't get supportive, unless something's in it for him.

Hugs, Ree. You're doing awesome, and you deserve better than that.