Can't decide if I should hug my hubby or kick him. . .

Since surgery I've been telling my husband I didn't know if I'd want to do plastics or not, just because I don't really want to have MORE surgery (and my recovery was good, I just think the recovery from plastics would be worse and I'm not sure I want to go through that).  His view all along has been "we'll see."  He thinks when I get to goal I'll change my mind.

Anyhow, so this week there is going to be a plastic surgeon at my support group to answer questions.  I told him that, and he goes, "Well, you should DEFINITELY go to that!"  I repeated my "I don't know if" line, and he went, "You think that now, but I'm betting you change your mind."  I said, "Well, maybe I'm young enough my skin will just snap back" and he LAUGHED!  (I am 38 and have been overweight my entire adult life and have had 2 kids).

He's right, I know.  I'm sure when I have the hanging skin I'll want it gone.  Still.  He could have humored me about the age thing. :)

My husband is just the opposite.  I can get a free boob job because I had bilateral lumpectomies,  I was thinking about having a little work done on my face while I was under, but he doesn't think it's worth the surgical risk.  I tend to agree, but I am a real ***** when it comes to surgery of any kind.

Wait until you lose all the weight you want and then some.  It takes the skin a while to tighten up.  If it would make you feel better about yourself and are willing to take the risk, it should be your decision alone.

Kick him

What kind of surgical risk? the biggest risk of any surgery is anesthesia. You are already going to be asleep for the boobs,so i can't see any additional risk,personally.

I would get done what i wanted done all at one time.

GL

I am single so my vote doesn't really count. But I'd vote -- HUG HIM, and hold on tight. You have an incredible "open-minded" husband willing to support you if you change your mind on plastics!

Personally, I said the same thing as you... didn't think I'd ever consider plastics. Figured my skin would move w/ me. I'd lost in my late 20's and skin did move w/ me well. Well, I am 50 now and skin has done relatively well for my age I think but I'm 85 lbs down now and while overall I'm ok w/ body. My bat wing arms( saw another poster refer to them as this)... are definitely bothering me. I would definitely consider plastics for that!

My boobs are sad little flaps that make slapping noises when I turn over in bed.

Ok, that would bother both of us.  He does enjoy boobs, and mine are already saggy enough from breastfeeding 2 kids.  If only I could have some fat removed from, say, my ass now to be used in my boobs later. . .

I still wear a 38C because I have plenty of extra skin to fill out the cup size. Of course, I count the back and sagging armpit skin as breast. Fills out the bra nicely.

But, that's just me.

I don't think he will care if I have sagging skin.  He just knows me and knows I'll want to see the "payoff" for the weight loss.

First, you should go, every detail is important. Second Plastic Surgery is very painful...third no extra skin is attractive...It's sorta like if you knew what you know know you would not be here now!   He just needs to be more diplomatic, like us all (Men).

HUG! Definitely a hug!