OT I need advice from teachers and parents

First off, I just want to say that I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time. Knowing that your child is being treated badly by someone they should adore is very upsetting.

I agree with the previous posts. You need to set up a meeting with the teacher and speak face to face. Write down your concerns and be very specific. Try your very hardest to not get emotional and stick to the facts. I would bring up that your daughters friend has noticed the teacher is unkind. I would also ask her to give you a call when your child's behavior is bad...not send a note. Also, I would probably demand that my child be allowed recess...especially with ADHD! That girl has got to move around.  I've got 4 kids ages 10-17. Over the years we have had  outstanding teachers and a few craptastic ones. When I felt it was a problem to big for my kids to handle I would 1st meet with the teacher and tell them my concerns. Only once did I have to go past that and go to the principal. ( My child was moved into another teachers classroom and the teacher was let go at the end of the school year. She was bad)  This is sad but true: When my husband would go with me the teacher seemed much more attentive. Tick me off to no end but taking my husband along and letting him do most of the talking works like a charm.

Honestly, how do you call a child LAZY for reading? Who cares what grade level it is...the child is reading!!! Difficult to take from someone that can't enter grades because she's worried she might have jury duty. Lamest excuse ever.

Best of luck!!!!

 

Exactly! Their recess isn't an entitlement. If one student acts up in class, 99% of the time, the teacher takes it away from them all completely. The only chance they have for bathroom or water breaks is if they are in class. They only get one 15 minute break per day.

One time, the teacher was out of the room and the aide punished her (made her move her desk to the back of the room away from the rest of the students, and also made her have "silent lunch") for getting water. Their rule is, if the teacher can't see them raising their "signals" for bathroom or water, they're allowed to get up. The aide apparently doesn't like that rule, and punished her. I got onto the teacher about it, and it was supposedly corrected.

I'm just glad she's being homeschooled next year. She needs a lot of one on one, plus her counseling.

Document, document, document.  What your daughter's teacher is doing is not only unprofessional, it's uncalled for.  No child should be treated with anything less than dignity and respect, and it sounds like her teacher is doing neither. 

Before going to the principal, make sure you talk with the teacher first.  It is always best to start with the teacher and then work your way up the food chain.  Going over the teacher's head to discuss what's happened may make things worse for your daughter in the end.  Once you've had a conversation with the teacher, I would then talk with the principal and counselor about having your daughter moved out of that teacher's class.  Is there another 2nd grade teacher whose class she can be moved to?

Good luck.

This is very true! There are 2 other teachers, but the sad part is, Midget Girl has the NICER of the 3. There's been several lawsuits with this school already. One 2nd grader was yanked out of her desk and thrown against a wall. Then, on another day, she had to use the restroom and was taking too long to go poop, so the teacher went into the bathroom and lifted her off the toilet to make sure she was going. It's BAD. (I was in the school board/ post commander meeting for that.) When Midget Girl was in Kindergarten, her teacher yanked her by the wrist for not listening and bruised her up.

Wow! That is unbelievable. I'm soooo glad you are homeschooling her next year too! What a mess.

 

Holy crap!  That is terrible!  :(

I'm sorry you and your daughter have had to put up with such a terrible school.  Homeschooling definitely sounds like it will be better for her if that is what the public schools are like where you are! 

It seems like you have two issues to deal with here.  First, the classroom incident with the teacher in which I would ask for a meeting with her and the principal.  Second, where are you in the IEP/504 process?  Have you gotten the evaluation for the Asperger's and exchanged that info with the school? 

 

I have the diagnoses of ADHD from her doctor. She goes in on the first of May for the Asperger's appointment. Other than that, I am getting nowhere. No one knows who to talk to about the paperwork, or where to get the copies for the doctors to fill out.

Oh boy....major red flags.  At each district, there is a person in charge of IEP's and 504's.  Request a meeting with the principal and the person in charge of SpEd or 504's.  In my district, parents make things happen.  Don't worry about being a psycho mom...you love your daughter and she deserves their attention.  Document your conversations and put things in writing.  If she's been referred to SpEd, there is a deadline to make things happen so you know the outcome.  I believe each state has a parent advocacy group.  I've never had an advocate show up to my meetings, but it sure would get the attention of the admin if they did.  Also, google special education laws in your state.  It's pretty bland reading, but will clearly define your rights as a parent.  Don't be afraid to go straight to the top...your superintendent and school board.  P.S.  I wouldn't mess around with just talking to the teacher.  The principal needs to be made aware of it.   Hope this helps and you get some results!

Check to see if the district has an administative office. They sent us our forms for the doctor, and family.
Home school is good. We did Connections Academy for 8th grade. It was good. More relaxed for her, more homework for me