Mean people

I really find this website helpful. I come to it everyday to look for answers to questions or just read how others journeys are going. I wish sometimes there was a like button!! I love to encourage people. BUT there is also another side to this site that really sucks, and that is the mean people who say things that need to be left unsaid. I am not talking about a little tough love with your post. You guys know what I am talking about. I am a "newbie". But honestly there have been times I was scared to ask a question OR see if anyone was going through what I was going through because of fear of someone snapping on me. Anyway I appreciate it when I read sweet & encouraging comments. Keep up the good job nice people. And if you dont  have anything nice to say....don't say anything at all

LIKE and totally agree Some people really need to think before speaking

And people still choose to come on post & make smart remarks. I don't get it. Its easy to sit their perfect butts behind a computer screen and make comments. All I can do is shake my head at that one.

When people post "I'm three days post op and ate a hamburger and fries...why does my stomach hurt? This sleeve isn't working", I think it is important for the community to speak up. After all, why did they post if not to invite comment?

It takes a village, and if you post then you should welcome all comments. Mean and harsh is sometimes how you interpret written text and if you heard the words spoken, they wouldn't be so harsh.

Sometimes it needs to be brutally honest, especially if someone is doing something that might hurt themselves.

Disney.com is a wonderful website if all you want are candy canes....and that was said in total humor. 

Bravo!

I would just like you to know that I rarely see what I consider true meanness on this forum.  Most of the time, what people are interpreting as mean is actually sound, critical but informative advice.  Most of the time, this advice comes from people that have been on this forum for a long time and have answered the same question a million times before and have also developed a sense of how this journey will go for people that are unwilling to make certain changes.  Posts like your are common, and they have the effect of silencing the VETS.  Just a different perspective for you. 

I have to agree with Elina and I can't really recall a truly "mean" post, especially one that wasn't immediately deleted by a moderator. This website isn't only for pat on the backs.

 

On that note, keep up the great work, everyone!

 

I'm a newbie too, but, I have to say I have read critical and sarcastic posts, but I also think regarding on content of post, these replies are warranted...
If I do something bone headed and post it, I'm looking for a verbal kick in the pants, coupled with maybe a little compassion, ie: we've all been there...back on the horse..etc....
I cherish all the vets here who have given me invaluable advice...
And as I journey along I hope I could be just as much of a source of informations as others have been to me.....

If your panties are easily twisted; the interwebs is not the place for you.