When seeing people in person for the first time in a while?

Last night I had dinner with a group of friends I hadn't seen in a while.

I enjoy compliments.  Really, I do.

But does anyone else sometimes get overwhelmed with the "you look amazings"? 

This is such a stupid issue to have, I know.  But the first one is nice.  However, at some point it starts to feel uncomfortable.  Is this something I just have to settle into?  Will it die down as people adjust to the "new" me? 

It just started to feel like it shifted the focus of our get together from all of us to me, and that was uncomfortable for me.  And then one woman kept going on and on about how she really doesn't eat much any more, and it felt like she was competing with me to see who ate the least at dinner.  It was weird.  I just ate what I'd planned to eat and let her talk.

On one hand, I can't wait till people notice I'm losing. On the other hand, I dread the attention. I have no advice. I'm not there yet. But I can imagine where you're coming from.

I feel you - and people watch every bite you take!! I guess it will take awhile to get comfortable in this new body (and I still have a lot to lose). I try to immediately try to start asking questions about what they are up too as most people really want to talk about themselves to get the attention away from me.

And they really want to talk about what diet & healthy eating plan works for them (especially irritating when they have no weight to lose). And I know rationally that we all need to eat healthy but in my head I just want to start throwing the dinner rolls or pats of butter at them. ( Maybe I need to work this out in therapy??)

My sister is on a mission to get me to be a vegetarian with her - not going to happen- I'm happy she has found a way of eating healthy that is working for her. I'm working on my own healthy eating plan - now leave me alone!!

"in my head I just want to start throwing the dinner rolls or pats of butter at them."

This will stop and you will even miss it a bit.  There will come a time, soon, when people will just take your weight for granted and not say a word.  They will barely remember you any other way and it will not come up in conversation.  This is just part of the normal process and a short stop on your journey.  Enjoy it for now as much as you can and trust me, you will miss it a tiny bit.

It slows down a bit, esp those that see you regularly, plus once they've seen you a few times, it just is who you are then.

I have become a master at redirection. Say thanks you. Change the subject.

Hello,

I can so SO relate!!  I am in a situation too where a lot of assumptions are made.  I have cancer (under control, no issues currently) and has suffered from some very discriminatory practices at work.  Consequently, I did not reveal at work that I went though surgery.  You can imagine the pickle I was in.  People assumed I was dying.  I would have to handle each encounter gently and constantly put out there that I was fine.  But to complicate matters I had to have several cancer related surgeries during the weight loss phase further feeding the fire that the weight loss was because I was sick.  I think the culumination came at the beginning of this school year.  Of course, many folks had not seen me since that past June.  I was unfortunately very sick at the time I would normally return to work, and had to put it off several days  When I was finally able to make it in, I was still horrible sick.  That combined with another 20ish pounds lost people pretty much freaked out.  I spent 48 hours of a CONSTANT barrage of questions, comments, etc.  By day 2 I was starting to get short with people, which imho is not fair to them since each encounter was independent of another.  I finally just started to tell people I had a twin (making light of the situation) and did that until people stopped.

A few months after that (a few months after goal) people finally, finally stopped constantly talking about i****ching what I was eating, etc.  Thank God.  I don't miss that one bit. 

WOW! I was just going to post the same thing!
I also went out to dinner last nite with some girlfriends that I havent seen since probably Super Bowl...one friend has known from the beginning when I scheduled surgery and has been with me every step of the way, a great support, the other two didnt know anything...when I got out of the car I was bombarded and I loved that they noticed but your right at some point saying thank you, thank you over and over Is uncomfortable... I didn't want to go over it and over it and monopolize the conversation but everytime I tried to steer the conversation off of me and onto something else, it went right back to me...I guess we should just take the positive attention while we can get it, because eventually our new look will become normal and not a shock to them, and then the compliments will be few and far between!!

I know what you mean.....I try to embrace it, but yesterday - this woman said, "You are going to have to start wearing a nametag so people with recognize you." I know she meant it as a compliment, but it rubbed me the wrong way for some reason.

I'm a year out and things have settled down somewhat. But I have a huge family reunion the first weekend of August and will see all my family that hasn't seen the new me yet. Last August when I went I was less than 2 months out from surgery and everyone went nuts on just the small amount I'd lost at that point. This year is going to be ridiculous and I told my husband that if it gets too upside down crazy to just get me the heck out of there and drive me to the nearest bar! It's a 14 hour drive from where I live so I don't see any of that side of my family and it's a 3 day affair so I know it'll be exhausting. My hubby and I are trying to come up with funny responses as no one knows about my surgery except my daughter and brother and his wife who will be there for moral support. Should be exciting, fun, exhausting and mind boggling - LOL!