I feel guilty...

So yesterday my friend and I went out for dinner to our favorite Italian restaurant. They have delicious garlic knots which I used to be able to put away 4 maybe even 5 with oil and still eat my meal *insert oink here!* I did a great job at not having one, not even 1 little taste. After looking over the menu there wasnt anything I could have, so I asked for a kids menu. They happily gave me one and I ordered a kids cheese pizza. I know their pizza is wood fired as I have had their pizza before. The pizza was small, cut into 6 tiny pieces, like no more than 2 inches of crust (long, not thick) and about 3 inches long. Over the 45 minutes at dinner, I ate 2 small pieces. I felt guilty last night and talked to my sister who has recently lost 50lbs on her own, she was never "big" but she has become super healthy, and she read me the riot act! I am glad she did. I am only 4 weeks out. Who the heck do I think I am to be eating pizza?!?! Are you f'n kidding me? I came onto the board today earlier this morning and I felt like I couldnt "show" my face because I would be a let down to myself. I have beaten myself up over this mess up for the past 30+ hours. I dont want to slip back into old habits! I will stop short and say I fell off the wagon, because I have been eating great (today too) and just had a lapse in judgment last night.

I am ashamed of myself. My sister is going to help me menu plan and I need to resist eating out, but being single and living alone, its hard to cook for one. No excuses, but its!

End vent!

Good Night,

Nikki

I am not going to beat you up, but remind you that every decision counts. You decide who you want to be. Someone just told me that and I am sharing the love, Dust yourself off now and get serious. Don't waste your weightloss honeymoon period on pizza.

So you made a crap choice. Instead of wallowing in guilt, which helps no one, you need to make a plan for next time. (There WILL be a next time - count on it)

One thing I've learned on this journey is that there's always something I can eat if I'm willing to get past a bit of embarrassment and ask for what I need. You could have ordered a small pizza with lots of veggies in the toppings, then eaten just the topping of 1-2 pieces. Honestly, nobody CARES if you don't eat the crust, and you'd have been further ahead nutritionally. (I don't count carbs, but I never eat pizza crust - way too gummy and tasteless by the time I've chewed it enough to make Fred happy)

Every restaurant has a side salad hiding somewhere on the menu. Every restaurant has some sort of protein. Ask nicely and you can have them together.

Good Italian restaurants tend to make really great grilled veg. Order just those, expect to take a bunch home and plan to have your protein at a different meal. My husband had his "last supper" at an Italian restaurant. I had the best grilled mushrooms and asparagus ever. (I was only able to eat about 1/2, but it was wonderful. He finished it off)

Most restaurants have soup - just leave any noodles behind, since they have no food value, plenty of calories and will make you feel crappy.

Ask to swap out side dishes and expect to take most of the meal home. People are really cheerful about this accommodation if you're polite and appreciative.

Side salad and a glass of milk. Drink the milk, then eat the salad. Not a perfect meal, but you could certainly do worse.

Look at side dishes as well as meals and appetisers. I've often made a great meal for myself with a "side portion" each of salmon and a veg.

Suggest splitting a meal with whoever you're with. Most people are happy to do this - especially if you fork over 1/2 of the bill.

Pick something you love even if the serving is huge. Portion off what you can reasonably eat and take the rest home for other meals.

You can totally do this.

Thanks guys. You are absolutely right. There will be a next time and I can make smarter choices. I think I let the "freedom" of being on a new stage of food got to me. I can totally do this! 

"Falling down doesn't have to mean failure..."   It's not my saying but when I heard it, it really stuck with me.  You haven't failed, you learned a good lesson and will choose differently next time.  It's OK!  

Nikki,

Dont feel bad!!!!  We have all at some point cracked under the pressure and wondered...why did I just do what I just did?!?!?  At least you recognized the problem and want to fix it.  Being since you are just at 4 weeks out, you havent been doing this long enough to have retrained your brain or your stomach.  Its not become a habit yet.  And your still learning and dealing with old habits and old ways of thinking.  Keep monitoring what you are eating and like others have said...get a game plan for next time and you will probably have a better outcome.  Best of luck to you!!!

I have been where you are (beating myself up, not pizza). Like the other posters said, don't beat yourself up.  Learn from this and move on! My BF loves Italian.  I order a side of meatballs.  I usually have half and he Hoovers the rest!

Make today awesome! 

an experience like this , learned from is invaluable, one ignored is a wasted opportunity. think of the many times in the future that you will make better choices from remembering this one time. if we were perfect to start off, we wouldnt be where we are.

no need to beat yourself up. this is hard stuff what we are doing and it takes time, focus and stumbling. IMHO

 

I am going on vacation next week and have looked up the menu online of the few restaurants we go to and am already planning ahead.....my sister is going with us and we plan on sharing an entree if possible.....we went to friendless the other night after running errands and my daughter ordered the sliders entree and gave me 2 of her sliders and I had them minus the bun...the waitress gave me an empty plate and didn't bat an eye about it....but my husband (who is a whopping 165 lbs) ordered a seafood platter w 3 kinds of deep fried fish on it, one of the items was fried to almost being burnt and he asked for another piece of fish....they brought out an entire 2nd serving of the platter....he almost polished off the entire thing( fried shrimp, scallops, and fish) I thought I was going to throw up watching him! Do we as Americans need to eat that much! 

(Friendlys) damn iPad auto corrected my spelling....

next time try to plan ahead and look online....good luck

While you shouldn't beat yourself up (because it does no good), I would encourage to you do some self-reflection and ask yourself why you chose the pizza in the first place. If there truly wasn't anything for you to order on the menu (no chicken or meatballs or anything), then you probably should've chosen to eat nothing at all and then ate on plan when you got home.

If you find that you didn't want to feel awkward not eating anything or that you felt pressured to have something because you didn't want the person that was with you to feel bad, you have to work through that and try to let it go. I've felt like that in the past and it doesn't do us any good. When you're going through this process, you have to make it "all about you" in a sense. Putting yourself first would have meant that you chose a different restaurant (other than an italian restaurant) that has better choices. I would hope that your friend would have understood and would have been supportive!

I applaud you for getting right back on track and again, beating yourself up will not do any good. I think some self-reflection and a plan for this type of situation going forward is what will truly be beneficial in the long run! Hang in there!