A Sad Story.......

I say that at this point it just doesn't matter.  You have the sleeve you have and it is clearly working for you right now.  Why borrow trouble?  Enjoy your weight loss and concentrate on your accomplishments. 

Borrowing trouble - I'm good for that. Excellent point. Thanks! 

 

Absolutely not!  You eat properly, you eat the correct quantity, of course you aren't going to slime and foam!  You are doing a good job!

Sometimes it's hard to hang in there! 

You've done everything you can, Frisco. You are a living, breathing testimony to what the surgery can do for a person. But the person has to WANT it bad enough to do ANYTHING (that includes eating like you) to get there. And that includes humbling themself to consider a different way of doing things.

He'll either get to the point where he's willing to do that...or he won't. You just continue to walk your own path of integrity on this journey.

I really like what you said here. I get all caught up in trying to help people to the detriment of myself sometimes. This is his journey and when he's ready to get back on track, he will. Frisco, I understand being sad and helpless; that is how I imagine I'd feel too. But as Tracy said, there is not much you can do.

Yep. Absolutely!

A very moving story. It is heartbreaking not knowing what else to do for your friend. My son had RNY 13 years ago. He kept most of his weight off for about 8 years. He slowly gained 90 lbs- still way less then his inital weight. He had a severe health crisis in February He looked at his life and remembered the healthy part and wanted it again. He went to the gym everyday and got his eating under control. I am proud for him to say he is down the 70 lbs. since March. I am really happy for him and he is happy for himself. Your friend can change but he has to want it first. I hope he finds a healthy way for himself.

That is sad and scary.   Do you think he would listen to your guidance for a food plan?

I don't mean for this to sound rude or anything BUT, he was 400 lbs and went down to 300lbs...this does not seem to me to be successful...I think he lost his way
Very early on in this journey and frankly his wife should be ashamed of herself for not being supportive...he went thru SURGERY to regain his health and life and she couldn't put aside her addiction to be supportive..although I would expect that this would be the norm with spouses that both have eating addictions...and I often wonder about divorce rate once one spouse gets fit and healthy and the other remains heavy....