Where Are They Now?

Wow.  I am one of the people in your peer group. I am one of the people that will never ever get to 100% EWL. I am one of the people who have reached goal not once, but 3 different times as I have re- set it. I am one of the people  that don't buy into the whole thing of you have to lose 100% or you are a failure.  I am one of the people as you refer to that don't post much.

The  simple reason for not posting much is because I learned early on, if you don't buy into some programs or don't agree with some things people profess, it will and does get you blocked.  

If I lose that 100% I would look so sickly that it would have went from being the fat guy to the guy that looks like walking death. I am happy where I am at. I have only lost 85% of my EWL. If I am a failure or disapointment from your peer group I will take this time to appoligize for letting you down. But, I still cherish you as a friend and that will never change. 

So very sorry. I really did not intend to come across as i obviously did. I am glad you replied as it means I can try to explain myself better!  

I really did not mean to say anything less than 100% loss is failure. It isn't. For many people losing considerably less is life changing and so is success. 

All I was trying to say was, don't go into it expecting to fail; go in expecting to do well. Set realistic goals (which may not be 100% ewl) and you have a better chance of achieving that goal. My view is starting out saying "well, I probably won't achieve my goal"  can become a self fulfilling prophecy. 

And I did finish by saying I am finding it very hard to maintain!

actually, I wonder if you replied directly to me by mistake?  On looking again, I think that may be the case! Your post seems to be answering the OP, not me. 

I am sorry if you thought i was replying  to your post. That is or was not my intention. I was replying  to Linda's original post.

yes, I realised that belatedly!  Do you realise that as you clicked on the reply button on my post and not on the general reply tab, the OP will see your comment if she checks but will not have been notified you sent it. So may well not see it.  Think you and  I are agreeing!,

This makes me sad. 85% is amazing!

Congratulations on everything you accomplished. You are a success when you say so and no one else. I hope you stay and post more. Everyone deserves support!

Bob you have not let me, anyone else - or most importantly - yourself - down!  You had a lot of weight to lose and you are still actively working towards your goal. You are within striking distance of it.  I admire you for keeping your head in the weight loss game for such a long time, and 'owning goal' by revising it several times.  I think you will get there!  

I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. It is a testament to the reality that we are never done, and that it actually gets harder as we go.  Like you, I 'knew' - maybe not right away but fairly early on.  I took my early journey very seriously and it was an empowering experience.  

Despite that, I know I have not conquered this.  It's really hard to hear about regain, but I'm heartened to hear that you are fighting it with everything you have. I admire you for that. I hope I can fight to.