anyone else tired of light weights?

ok I know I am setting myself up to be slammed but I just gotta say it! It seems when people email me (secretivly) & dont post to the boards it always goes something like this....I dont undertand why you cant get under 200 pounds, you must be doing something wrong...AND then I read their histories and they almost always started out at 250 pounds or something around that. I dont know if im right but it seems to me that just about everyone who has WLS losses  about 100 pounds....SOOO if you start at 250 you will be 150 etc. I happend to be extremely Fat. 360 pounds fat and I have lost 160 pounds which is a tremendous amount of weight. I work so hard to get more gone but it just wont go. I am just so sick of getting "you should have done better" emails from people who started out where I was after a 100 pound loss.  OK thrash away, I just needed to vent!! Diana RNY 9/17/03 Dr. Roe 360/200/still aiming at 180

I think alot of people are missing the point, which I believe is to "Get Healthy". You are healthy, so you are basically "at goal". Now the next big issue is staying there. That's the important part. So don't give a crap about e-mail opinion and just realize you are doing fantastic. I would respond to the e-mails, to let me know how they are doing after 3 years. There is so many things that play into weight loss. Starting weight, medicines, age, ability to be active, etc, etc. People are just different. Keep up the good work, I personally think you are looking fantastic. Sara  

No flaming here, Hon.  Losing 160 pounds is AMAZING and you don't have to defend your progress to anyone.  You've done a fantastic job.  Hugs, Tracy

Diana, Congratulations on your weight loss. I don't know who sent you those kind emails but I would make sure I removed them from my "friends" list. I was just on the weight loss estimator and realized that at my highest (334) when I had surgery the "average" weight percentage was 65% which would put me at 212.....I hit that yesterday !   (but am back up to 214 today) and for a 75% weight loss would be , here is the link . 194.... http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/information/planner +results.php So that is my next goal. But if I don't reach it ,  I'm not going to complain and no one else should either ! I weigh now what I did close to 30 years ago and if it weren't for this surgery , I would probably still be over 300 pounds and in worse shape than before. Congratulations again .....you won't get anything but praise from me ! Sandy

I am a light weight. I don't slam anyone. We all loose different. I am very sick and very underweight. I get slammed very bad for being so sick and skinny. I get hate e-mails telling me I am anoxexia. How there dog is bigger than me. That freaking hurt bad!!!! put me up aganist their dog. I will never get it. That hurt the worst of anything anyone has ever said to me. So people will always have a smart @ss comment at any weight you are. So Hold your pretty head up and make yourself happy. There has got to be some mean people on here. Have a blessed day. Amy

160 IS GREAT.You have done a wonderfull job and keep it up.That is alot of weight to lose and you are doing things right so the rest or some more weight might come off.There is no reason to bash someone who trieds and sucedes. The only time I do bash and only because some people need it is because they are on the wrong path and they know it but I do not like doing it.We are here for support and need be someone who can give sugestions on being help. So delete those emails and thash them.You did great in my book.............bob

Diana, You have done an AMAZING job and you should be so proud of all of that you've accomplished!!!!  You're correct in that fact that those of us that started out heavier will generally take longer to get to goal and/or never make it to "goal"~we start out with a HUGE disadvantage in many ways. But I agree with the above statement that  You HAVE made it to goal~the goal of being HEALTHY!!!! That's what they really try to stress at our support group meetings~its not a number that you're trying to get to, but a healthy life! You're active, you exercise, you eat right and I'm sure you feel great! So, don't listen to the little voices hiding behind a computer screen and keyboard~they just don't get it!  Love Ya!

In my opinion it isn't anyone else business how you lost the weight, why, how much, etc... You should take those emails with a grain of salt. With this being a message board you will get those shoulda coulda woulda responses. I think you did great and besides maybe your body is happy at 200 pounds. Losing 160 pounds is like losing another whole person. I'm proud of you for what its worth... Candy who was a light weight....

No slamming here, Diana.  You've done great.  We should all be aware that this WLS journey is very different for everyone, and there are no guarantees where you're going to end up.  Be proud that you've done so well.  No one has the right to say "you should have done better" - WLS is not a guaranteed weight loss.  I had a friend who had surgery around the same time as me, and she started out at over 330 lbs., I believe.  I think she had some other health issues that interfered with her weight loss, and she was only able to lose 50 pounds.  Naturally, she was devastated and heartbroken, but she honestly did everything she was supposed to do.  Her body just would not release the weight.

Vent any time!  That's why we're here.

Carlita

 

Hi Diana. I feel your pain though I haven't received emails like those you have received. I'm fighting every day to get below 200 pounds (and that's not really even close to my goal weight!) and I'm very aware that I may never get there. I'm so proud of you for continuing to fight. Sometimes, not giving up is success in itself!