be honest...who's drinking???

I drink socially, maybe once a month, at times has been 2-3 times a month, then other times maybe 1time every 3-4 months. So I do enjoy drinking from time to time BUT it is not a habit. Everyone in my family has an addictive personality. Whether it be food, drugs, alcohol….my father is a serious alcoholic, there is no doubt this will be the death of him. I see him every day and no way in hell do I want to live in his reality. This may sound so terrible but I would rather him commit suicide than having to watch him kill himself slowly. He's deteriorated from a man standing 6'3" 250lbs to a pathetic 180lbs…. So I make it a point NOT to drink a lot. Sure there are some evening's I come home and think a drink would be nice but I NEVER touch alcohol during the week. IF I do drink it's on the weekends.

Seems like a page out of my life Lisa. Like you I only drink socially and only on the weekends when I do drink. I also add the calories that I consume from drinking into my daily intake, this helps me to not "overdo" it. I don't do mixed drinks when I consume either...fruit juices, soda, nothing just on the rocks. My father is an alcoholic and my mother was one also (she's been sober and smoke free for over 10 years! ) so like you I've seen first hand the effects of alcohol abuse. Good luck to everyone! 

I find my self on the opposite end of this spectrum.  I wasn't much of a drinker preop and I haven't touched the stuff since surgery 8/29/06.  I'm too scared of how my body will react!  I never drank except on special occasions and when out with friends (which doesn't happen often due to where I live and where they live).  And, my favorite drink is/was a strawberry daquiri which would be TOO sweet and make me dump for sure.  Other than that, the only drink I ever drank was rum/coke and with not drinking carbonated stuff...  You get the picture!  LOL  What on earth would I drink?  How would I know how much was too much?  I'm clueless as to what I may like drinkwise.  I have only ever found one wine I found fruity and not terribly sour and it was a white zinfandel at Olive Garden.  I suppose I could try to find some sort of wine tasting somewhere, but I'd have to go with someone I trusted as I would be afraid to drive home and hubby is prone to excess with wine and he isn't pleasant to be around after he's had too much wine (so he doesn't drink it!).  Sort of limits my options!  LOL I guess this will remain an area where I have no trouble as though I really missed feeling comfy ordering  a drink when with friends last month when I went to conference, I can't say that I truly missed the drink itself, just made me feel a bit "different" since I felt like I COULDN'T as opposed to shouldn't...  Know what I mean? Lea

I truly love this forum... I am 10 months post op and i drink maybe once a week. I am also a black out drinker. I drank before surgery about the same once a week but i could hold my own. I now know that i cannot drink out especially if my husband is no around. I just recently had a girls night out, we went to dinner and we came back to my house for the drinks.. I am a little scared of  this. I tell myself all week that i am not going to drink anymore, and then here comes my day off and i tell myself go ahead its your day off.. I to have alcoholism in my family, so i know i have to be careful. I really don't want to drink anymore. It's not the same as before surgery for me and i don't know how to slow down after i start.. I hope all this makes sence...