When do you stop feeling fat

I'm 20+ months out and I swing back and forth.  Some times I feel so tiny it's bizarre and then I eat one bite too much and I feel like I weigh 245 again.  What I can't get to is just feeling right about myself.  I either feel too big or too small.  Who knows??

Well from what everyone has said, I guess we will always have that feeling sometimes.  I think it is good for most people, maybe we will always keep ourselves in check. When we feel fat we will try harder to not gain the weight back or to get back to using our tool better. Thanks for the input, Amy

I'm 19 months out, and I still have days I feel really fat. I'm a size 2 and have to take up the waist in that size, so I know there's no way in Hades that I'm fat. And everybody that is my size or bigger, they are suddenly fat too!! I couldn't squeeze my big 'un into a Size XXXL before I had RNY, so I can't even count how many sizes I have dropped, but there have been days I don't want to go to work because I think I look fat in my clothes. I've been told your mind is 2 years behind your body. I think that also works when you're gaining weight. I was always in denial about my size.

Hmmm, good question! At 3+yrs out I have my good days and my bad days. I try to stay positive and even if I'm having a "fat day" I try to remind myself where I came from and how far I've come~sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. The mind is a funny thing!

Amy thank you for posting your question, reading everybody's replies has been so helpful to me.  I thought it was bizarre that I could feel thin and fat at the same time.  There are times when I don't think I'll go down an aisle of a store or try to squeeze between two racks because i don't want to be embarrassed....how many times did I think people were thinking 'wow that fat lady has some nerve trying to fit in THERE', etc.  Then I catch myself in the mirror and think, wow I'm so tiny!   And every time I go to put on my size 4 jeans I hope and pray they'll go up past my huge butt and then actually zip.  When they do I'm so amazed!  Huge butt...what butt?  There is no padding over my sad old broken tailbone...how could I ever forget that fact?   The body dysmorphia thing is such a mystery.  I'm hoping that pursuing plastics will help a bit.  There is nothing left of my chest (had reduction in 2000, now I'm probably literally a AAA) and with no waist, no hips, no butt I feel a bit like a female version of a eunuch.   Molly

I guess we all do feel the same...Somedays I feel fat and then I catch a surprize glimpse of myself in a mirror and I am stunned that I am NOT fat.  I get proof in the way some men react when I walk by...and my husband will say "thanks, get your own"...LOL I have no clue...He tells me all the time that men gawk at me otherwise I don't even notice..unless they are downright rude which they have been occassionally.  I am surprized when I see photos of myself and I just can't believe I am pretty trim...Not a bean pole or anthing but I am not looking overweight either. I still try to hide from the camera...and other times I feel good and I ask my hubby or kids to snap a hoto soI can see what I look like! LOL Some days I wake and expect to see a 315 lb woman looking back at me and she's just not there. I don't know if it will ever go away...I wondr if half of it is expecting that I will gain all my weight back and so I refuse to see what i really am. I try really hard to see me NOW...I don't want to jinx myself by thinking bad thoughts...that has never worked! Anita

for me never ;-( Diana

After all the replies that I have received, I am getting to the realization that this is best. Thanks, Amy

I'm a little late on this, but even now at 21 months out (almost), I had a 3 pound time-of-month weight gain, and it made me feel fat.  Logically, I knew that I wasn't fat - I was still a size 4!  But my size 2 jeans were uncomfortably snug.  I couldn't help feeling fat.  Now the 3 pounds are gone and my jeans are comfy again, and I no longer feel fat.  Go figure. WLS is such a head game sometimes.

For me, when I was a size 28, I still saw a size 18 in the mirror. Now I am a size 10, and I still see a size 18 in my head. It's always been hard for me to have an accurate idea of what I looked like. I hope I can match up the reality with the head thoughts.