Weight Gain
Carol, I had surgery on 8/14/06, I think the same time you did. I lost about 200 pounds, a lot more than the doctor expected me to lose. I wanted to get to 160 or so, and dropped to 125. Now I'm about 132 and haven't changed my habits much, I just rebounded some. If that's all I gain, I'm plenty happy, but I'm scared to death I'll put on a few, then a few more, and pretty soon I'll be looking at 200 or 300 again. I think it's normal to feel that way, when all the fun stuff's over and we really have to work to stay the same. One thing that really helps me is to exercise. I hate to get up and do it, but after 15 minutes or so it feels soooo good. When I get finished, it's almost like I've had a good massage.
My husband is on SS disability and also suffers from anxiety and depression, so I can sort of understand some of your problems. Sometimes it helps to talk about things, even if it's only through a post, and other times it feels like a lonely world. We all experience it to some extent. It's great that you're seeing a therapist. I've considered it a few times myself, to talk about my food addiction and other things, like wanting to beat the hell out of some people at work.
I read everybody's posts and don't respond as much as I used to. I'm sure it's not that people don't care and didn't respond to you, it's just that most people don't really feel they can help. At least, that's why I don't answer most of the time. I always figure there's people with a lot more insight than me that can help. And I probably didn't say much to make you feel better, I just wanted to let you know that people here do care about you.
My husband is on SS disability and also suffers from anxiety and depression, so I can sort of understand some of your problems. Sometimes it helps to talk about things, even if it's only through a post, and other times it feels like a lonely world. We all experience it to some extent. It's great that you're seeing a therapist. I've considered it a few times myself, to talk about my food addiction and other things, like wanting to beat the hell out of some people at work.
I read everybody's posts and don't respond as much as I used to. I'm sure it's not that people don't care and didn't respond to you, it's just that most people don't really feel they can help. At least, that's why I don't answer most of the time. I always figure there's people with a lot more insight than me that can help. And I probably didn't say much to make you feel better, I just wanted to let you know that people here do care about you.
Thank you Wanda for responding. You actually did help me with your post. I was seeing soo many people read, but no one posting and felt like nobody cared. But thanks to you and Paula I feel loved again. I get soo depressed sometimes and there is nothing that I can to pull myself out of it. I have been walking with my dogs the last couple of days. I hurt like heck when I get back home from the back injury. I'm seeing an attorney regarding that issue tomorrow. Thank you again for caring and let's keep in touch. Big Hugs to you..........
hi carol,
i'm sorry that you're going through so much. i haven't been on OH in so long and tonight i decided to see what was going on. i don't think i can help you very much - i'm not on that IP Pump and am not going through all the terrible pain you are. All i can say is that it seems as though you are doing all you can for yourself by seeing a mental therapist - but maybe there is a different sort of doctor you can see? maybe a good qualified pain mgmt. doctor or alternative health doctor to help you with your horrible pain? i know all too well about the weight gain and i wish i can shout it from the rooftops to all pre and post WLSers. I had GB about 4.5 years ago - did great until my breast lift and then a year later I had a TT and the weight is piling on. I think mainly because the long recovery time after the surgeries prevented me from going to the gym and just sitting around waiting to get better and be able to work out - the old poor me syndrome kicked in and i started eating more often - i feel at this point that i no longer have a pouch - that i have a regular stomach again as more and more food can get in. in the last year i joined jenny craig and now i'm at weigh****chers. after i lost all my weight i started to go to WW to feel more accountable for my weight but my stupid therapist told me i shouldn't because i get caught up in the "numbers" well duh - that's all i ever do - except now my numbers are getting higher and higher and the fear is devastating and paralyzing so much that i feel completely lost and so after being able to work out after being fully healed from the BL and the TT - i stopped completely. anyway - at this point i can't blame my parents for my weight issues anymore (can i?) as i too am 46 and it ain't gonna get easier from here on out - so i took my fat ass back to WW and i've been to the gym every day this week - it's not easy and any pre-op who thinks it is is sadly mistaken. i hope that someone will be able to manage your pain better where you will be back to work one day soon and get it back together b4 more weight comes on. you have harder than most - i will incorporate you in my prayers! good luck to you from a fellow run-on sentence :)
i'm sorry that you're going through so much. i haven't been on OH in so long and tonight i decided to see what was going on. i don't think i can help you very much - i'm not on that IP Pump and am not going through all the terrible pain you are. All i can say is that it seems as though you are doing all you can for yourself by seeing a mental therapist - but maybe there is a different sort of doctor you can see? maybe a good qualified pain mgmt. doctor or alternative health doctor to help you with your horrible pain? i know all too well about the weight gain and i wish i can shout it from the rooftops to all pre and post WLSers. I had GB about 4.5 years ago - did great until my breast lift and then a year later I had a TT and the weight is piling on. I think mainly because the long recovery time after the surgeries prevented me from going to the gym and just sitting around waiting to get better and be able to work out - the old poor me syndrome kicked in and i started eating more often - i feel at this point that i no longer have a pouch - that i have a regular stomach again as more and more food can get in. in the last year i joined jenny craig and now i'm at weigh****chers. after i lost all my weight i started to go to WW to feel more accountable for my weight but my stupid therapist told me i shouldn't because i get caught up in the "numbers" well duh - that's all i ever do - except now my numbers are getting higher and higher and the fear is devastating and paralyzing so much that i feel completely lost and so after being able to work out after being fully healed from the BL and the TT - i stopped completely. anyway - at this point i can't blame my parents for my weight issues anymore (can i?) as i too am 46 and it ain't gonna get easier from here on out - so i took my fat ass back to WW and i've been to the gym every day this week - it's not easy and any pre-op who thinks it is is sadly mistaken. i hope that someone will be able to manage your pain better where you will be back to work one day soon and get it back together b4 more weight comes on. you have harder than most - i will incorporate you in my prayers! good luck to you from a fellow run-on sentence :)
I LOVEEEED your run into each other sentences. When you start thinking, reflecting and typing that is what happens. It's almost like I don't take the time to breathe, not to mention worry about my grammar. I am seeing a pain management specialist actually. This is my second one. The first did LOTS of pain medication, Epidurals and Facet Injections and physical therapy (that made it worse) that did absolutely nothing. They referred me to this new one. He is the one who put in the pain pump. Seems to be starting to work a little, but it's going to take a loooong time he said to get it fine tuned. But that's ok. All I have is time. I've lost 3 lbs. since posting my sob story. Feeling better now....LOL
I feel for you too. (Oh my gosh, is this a NEW paragraph?) Anyway, I can hear and feel your desperation. I hate when I run into someone and they ask how I lost so much weight and I tell them and they say those dreaded words "oh you took the easy way out". Easy??? Who ever said this was easy? Not me by any means. I think you are on the right track with WW. That is what I would do if I were you. Are you still using protein shakes at all? That might be another option. I think at this point after our "honeymoon" period, we need to find whatever works for us to keep the weight off.
Again, thank you soo much for replying. I really enjoyed reading your post. I have a question though. How in the world do I post a picture. My friend took a nice picture of me and I have it in my e-mail, but I don't know how to post it. It must be easy directions or I won't be able to do it. If you or someone could direct me I would really appreciate it.
Big Hugs,
*Carol*
in California
I feel for you too. (Oh my gosh, is this a NEW paragraph?) Anyway, I can hear and feel your desperation. I hate when I run into someone and they ask how I lost so much weight and I tell them and they say those dreaded words "oh you took the easy way out". Easy??? Who ever said this was easy? Not me by any means. I think you are on the right track with WW. That is what I would do if I were you. Are you still using protein shakes at all? That might be another option. I think at this point after our "honeymoon" period, we need to find whatever works for us to keep the weight off.
Again, thank you soo much for replying. I really enjoyed reading your post. I have a question though. How in the world do I post a picture. My friend took a nice picture of me and I have it in my e-mail, but I don't know how to post it. It must be easy directions or I won't be able to do it. If you or someone could direct me I would really appreciate it.
Big Hugs,
*Carol*
in California
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