If you're here and in trouble...

Dawn, I haven't gained anything significantly (about 8 lbs) and like you had gotten below goal and needed to gain a few lbs.   I didn't do anything to gain because I was aware of the "bounce back" we hear about.

I am still ok weight wise but thought I'd add my thoughts to your post, because I can see how one regains weight.  I fight the food demon many days and sometimes I beat it other days I can't.  I hope to avoid weight gain by staying active with a support system and to regularly weigh myself.  I'm still a point where when I do see the scale move up a couple of lbs I can do something then to stop myself.  Not sure if it'll get harder still sure hope not.

Like Michelle said, I tell people all the time to not tempt fate and try foods that are triggers for them, because knowing it has no ill affect on you only gives your mind the go-ahead to eat it again and again. 

Good for you! We do what we can to pass on information and what they do with that information is their own business/fault/advantage...

I do honestly believe that vigilance is the key..Being careful is the key...All the rules that apply early out, still apply...

Thank you for responding!

my name is Linda,   i am a lurker,  i don't usually post.   i needed to put my struggle into words.
it has been five years since i had RNY.   i pretty much maintain within 5 pounds for four years without really trying.   i was able to eat anything and still maintain,   then i started going through menopause,   starting taking hormone pills,   i then was craving anything that was carbs,   had the bad carb monster too.   i noticed that my weight kept creeping up.   i now have gained 25 pounds.   i also work the night shift,  as a customer service rep,  so i am on the phone my entire shift,   so now i am having problems getting all of my protein in,   and my water in,   i have stepped up my exercise routine.   since i am going through my menopause,   these pounds are not moving.   i have been struggling with this for six months.   i know i am not eating enough calories.   my pouch works,  and it is sometimes hard to get in 3 oz of meat in a meal,   i can't seem to eat six small meals a day,  because i am on the phone so much with my job.   but i am not giving up,   i will find a way.  

I'm dealing with the menopause monster myself...If it's not one thing it's another with women. It'd be MUCH easier to be the man, I tell ya!

I agree with the carb monster. Good carbs don't call your name in the middle of the night but those stinking white carbs...Nasty evil carbs laced with sugar or just white carbs with salt..Those call me from the kitchen all the time if I give in just alittle...

Thank you so much for responding. 25 pounds will be work but you can do it...cheese sticks and beef jerky instead of cookies and crackers...All you have to do is change your mind. Easier said than done however. Don't I know it.

Good luck to you!

Davn,

What message on the MB started your question?  Please give me the link.

BTW, did you see the threads on SM attacking MM?  SM has made a lot of money off of us, I can't believe she's acting like that.

Michele

It wasn't one single post on the RNY board that got to me. It's been building up inside of me for some time because of reading posts. I don't get too involved with some members' posts because it's like playing a broken record again and again but the biggest offenders don't listen to reason.

I hate to point fingers and name names so I won't but I've been frustrated for some time.

I did see the attack on MM with reference to some blog. It got really ugly so I just looked away. I don't need that sort of drama. I won't even watch reality television so anything more dramatic than that makes me physically ill. I used to stress eat but now I stress starve...Neither one is healthy. LOL.

Thanks for your response. We're all here for a reason...To get support or give support. Those of us who have walked a mile should be guiding those who have taken their first steps, those further behind us...

I understand exactly what you mean. 

I read the MB normally at night-- habit from when I used to work!  LOL!  But as most the east coast people are gone then, I feel sorry for people who need their answers so I respond to the questions that I can give an accurate answer on.  It's my way to trying to give back for all the tremendous support I've received at OH.  It can be very frustrating, some of the questions are incredible.

Michele

One more thing i have to add. it drives me crazy to see ___lbs lost forever. Not forever i can guarantee that. You will have fluxes and have to work hard!  I am guilty of this too, but now i realize nothing is forever, unless YOU make it forever.

Good point!

Unless you learn good habits while on the honeymoon phase of this journey and you STICK TO THOSE RULES...and (God Forbid) nothing drastic happens, health wise, it's up you you!

Hi Dawn, I had to do a double take at your post.  I wrote the other day about hunger and why we all can't eat when we are just hungry, and your post almost follows that line.  Before I begin, as I've posted, this I promise is not a pitty party at all for me, but just a big bite of reality.  Being an "recovering" emotional eater, I'm proud to say that for the past 3 solid years I was able to replace the emotional eating cycle with physical exercise and the results were absolutely amazing... But... and there is a big but here, I have hit a tremendous road block this past July.   I was diagnosed with two partially herniated discs, degenerating with arthritis and spinal stenosis (Which a 60 year old person would be diagnosed with!!).  I am 27 years old, too young for this but here it is.  My physical activity needless to say has all but ground to a screeching halt..... not by choice but by doctor's orders and painful consequences when I break those rules (not being able to walk the next day).... along with that the emotional eating demon is starting to surface, and I say "starting" because I have been working very hard to control that inner demon.   Staying with my food routine and making choices wisely.  Aside from the emotional eating, I'm heartbroken that I can not kick box, play tennis or run right now which are activities I accomplished after 20 years of being morbidly obese.   About 7 pounds have crept up on me due to my prison that I'm in and it's very emotional, I'm screaming on the inside and have sought help from others here (whom have been truly wonderful!!!).  HOWEVER, I have made a pact with myself as I did 3 years ago that I will live, and I am going to fight however hard I need to in order to be healthy, fit and happy.  

There is not a doubt that we all are going to experience roadblocks, I did not realize that this health issue could happen to me, but alas, it's here and roaring it's ugly head.  Yet still, I have been fighting the pain to do even small exercises, including walking in place in my living room.   I would not wish this on anyone.  But if I can conquer this, I want people to know that they can also conquer their roadblocks, whatever they may be.   :)

Great post Dawn, got me thinking a lot. 

~Shannon