ot. i feel sorry

For my children. They are 23 and 18 but their dad walked on us when they was little. I have always been their Mom, Dad and best friend. I wonder if fathers day bothers them? They don't say anything but you gotta know they feel bad and that hurts me. Hell I haven't tlked to my dad in like 10 years when he called me fat ass that was the end with him. 

 

Amy

Hi Amy. I am Dawn's husband.
  I am not your dad but I would never have called you anything more than beautiful. I have 2 daughters and they are 38 and 34. we had a falling out with them for a good reason awhile back, but we got around it and are very talkative again. It didn't last long. I can't speak for your dad, but I would like to think he misses you and surely loves you. Dawn will be here soon, we just got back from shopping, Dex

You sound like a very good dad. Nice to meet ya.I like Dawn. She understands me. I wish yaw lived in N.C. 

Thank you for your kind words. I try to be a good dad but I feel sometimes I fell short. Both my daughters are really good people but lack the initative to do better with their lives than they are. My dad and mom were very much like Ozzie and Harriet and my upbringing was like the Nelsons. It did exhist back then but it was rare. Dawn and I were talking just yesterday about you and your situation and we said we wished we lived closer to you as well. If you feel that it would help, how about we exchange phone numbers so you could talk to Dawn if you need to? I was glad to see you put on a pound, 1 up and a few to go. Keep it up with your kids too, that is great medicine. 

Amy,
Call your dad( send a card), if not for him do it for you. My dad has been gone nearly 12 years and we had a loving relationship so I do not have the same background as you. I miss him.
Mary

I have no clue where he is. He might already be dead. Nobody would call and tell us. A lady at my work told me that my grandmother died. She was not even family and knew. I didn't even sit with the family at the funeral. They didn't ask me. Nobody talked to me at the funeral either. Me and my daughter went and stood away and watched then left. I wish I had loving parents. I am so glad you loved your dad. I bet he was a real dad. 

If I had a dime for every time I was called that name by a relative or my father...I wouldn't have to work! I can go months at a time without saying two words to my family even though they live in the same town as me and it's not that big an area...My dad divorced my mother while she was dying and in the hospital. He married before she finally died and he took us away and wouldn't let us go and see her before she died..On one side of my brain I absolutely HATE that man but he's my father and my blood and for his "station" in life, I do love him and forgive him..

My brother is a big fat jerk. He thinks he's better than everyone else, smarter, makes more money too. Sometimes he irritates the hell out of me. Today I'm going to see both of these big fat jerks and be nice to them and suck it up for a few hours because even though they don't deserve it, they get to see me and that's blessing enough for them (and I"m humble too. LOL) 

What I'm saying is that even if he's a jerk, he still has some value as a connection to your history if the things he's done aren't horrible (abuse would make it null and void, in my book)..he's someone who knows you and can heal alot of wounds if you ask him. And you can be the better person and forgive him...not for  him, but for YOU...

If your kids' dad didn't abuse them, they'll be pretty resilient. They'll come to terms with who their father is eventually. Father's Day is just another day for kids who don't have dads so I wouldn't be too stressed over the day for your kids. My husband's kids probably won't even CALL for Father's Day. There are good dads and there are good kids. There are bad in both camps.

The day my Mom died my Dad ran off with some hoochie. He only come back for the funeral. Then he moved way off and my brother had a massave stroke and I called our dad and he wouldn't come back to see him. That is when he called me fat ass. Said he was going to shove the phone up my fat ass. My sister don't even live a mile away and the day I had my gbs she stopped talking to me. She worked at phillip morris I know she had the money more than I did. I am close to my brother that had the stroke. I love him so much. None of us children even knows where our "dad" is. I heard he was living with some old ass woman. My daddy always chased after the women. My family is fu@ked up. I am so.so glad I got my kids. They love me. I have someone that loves me. I never had the love of parents. That is why I love them so much. I give them love and care that I didn't have. My son called and said he wanted to take me out for fathers day. lol I told him ok. So me and him are going out tomorrow. And I don't think my daughter even remembers her dad. He ran off on us with his boss lady. I have always been **** on...............................see why I am fuked up with anorexia. Seems like when I had gbs it all come back to me at once. Things I didn't want to remember. They are hitting me now like a ton of bricks. Thank you and everyone for talking to me.

My family is fu@ked up too.. I so much as told that to the psych who cleared me for surgery. He asked me if I'd ever been sexually molested by a family member. I told him that my family was just as disfunctional as the next but none of that happened...ALL families are dysfunctional. I believe the ONLY functional family was Ozzie and Harriet and they were mythical. LOL.

I can understand the whole thing. I can identify with all of that completely. My dad's been married to my step mom since 1974 so they have been married a good long time. If it hadn't been for her, it would have been up to my sister and me to take care of him and I don't know if I could do that. Some men are good hearted but many are not. Dad's are just men, after all.

I figure it has less to do with the women they are married to and more to do with plain old ego on their part. An older man, who figures he's getting up there will suddenly chuck it all for the blonde bimbo..It's a mid-life crisis for them. When they wake up one day in the future, and their young chick has chucked THEM for a richer or better looking guy...they're pretty much screwed, cuz they've got NOTHING to offer anymore. They're OLD. Alot of people who have gbs suddenly decide they're better than their partner (and sometimes THEY ARE) and leave them. Some partners figure their skinnier spouse is gonna leave anyway so why delay the inevitable...No telling what is rattling around in those empty heads! LOL. Men aren't perfect. They're men!

Father's Day is a non-event for my Son and I.  My husband died when my son was one, my Dad died when I was 12.  I know Robert resented not having a father when he was little.  It was being different from the other kids that got to him.  Now it's just normal (he's 27).  I'm sure your kids feel the same.

Have a nice day tomorrow and enjoy being with your kids!

Michele