Feeling discriminated against

Hi all, I know this shouldn't be making me so upset, but I'm in tears over it and cant' seem to help it. I don't write on the boards much and feel a little guilty for even venting here, but not sure where else to turn to. I'm about 8 months out and have lost 90lbs. Starting to go out to resturants with friends again. My roomie stopped home to surprise me taking me for Chinese. I was in the garden so very much dressed down and comfy. You know, "common country folk like." I've not had any trouble with my bariatric card. We've been there before and thought they'd given the children's price. Well I got a light plate of food. We had a 3 year old with us and he had more food on his plate. I ate a small chunck of chicken, a dumpling and 6 green beans. The waitress came back and I wanted to double check the card. The manager came back to tell me they didn't give discounts. Okay, I had a small plate of food, had made a slight mistake. I made a couple of suggestions to fix the problem. I wouldn't get anymore food or I could just put my plate in a to go box, put a few more items in, so it was a normal filled box and pay for it as a to go. That wouldn't have broken any of their rules and I wouldn't feel like I'd been over charged. He told me I could put my original plate in a to-go box and he'd charge me. (here's where how I was dressed came in. How dumb does he think I am?) Uhh . . . isn't that the same thing as paying 9 for the plate I already had? His arguement was, because I had a selection of items from the buffet, I was being charged all the additional for the option of choices. I lost my appitite and was fighting tears. I wasn't trying to cheat the resturant, I just wanted fair. The manager got a sudden phone call and dissappeared until I left. I could have gotten alot of food and left it all over the table, but that's petty. While trying to tell one of the waitresses, that I wanted a written thing from her manager of what he told me and wouldn't agree to, she got upset and insisted I needed to pay, that they'd have to pay if I didn't. Even said she'd let me do the to-go box. I told her no and she had to go take care of a customer. I told the cashier to thank her for her offer, but their manager had already said he wouldn't do that, and I wasn't trying to get anyone in trouble. I paid, kept a receit and am going to talk to the owner in the morning. Am I being unreasonable? I know most folks on here are a little bias, but this is worth pursuing, isn't it?

I might have missed some of the points, but if the point was discrimination because they wanted you to pay full price for a buffet when you had your card... Its really not. Because it is the restruants choice to accept the card and have you pay less because of the amount you eat or not. A lot of places will be pro-customer and make you pay very little, or children prices. Some simply won't do it.

I would fight them, and then contact the local paper and tell them your story... people complain about how every one is so over weight and you were there making smart choices and got screwed over... if people want this "epidemic" to end the resturants have to start making changes also... and I am now in the process of writing to different law makers, resturant chains, etc... about this... so fight it sista!

That story is upsetting and you are right to feel the way you do. I think you should definitely pursue this; it's not petty at all. Discrimination of any form is wrong and there is very little awareness about the discrimination against weight loss surgery patients. A lot of people feel that weight loss patients are just lazy, hungry slobs who are looking for the easy way out and they are very wrong. I agree with the person above me, if they aren't willing to right that wrong then you should take it to a higher power, even the news papers if necessary.